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One Angry Lesbian- The Power of Anger Management

“Of the good in you I can speak, but not of the evil.

For what is evil but good tortured by its own hunger and thirst?

Verily when good is hungry it seeks food even in dark caves, and when it thirsts it drinks even of dead waters.”

Kahlil Gibran

Everyday we will encounter those who create anger within us. We will meet people who share the belief that those different from them are filth, vermin, something that needs to be eradicated.

They will look at you and you will feel the hatred and disgust. You will have to endure it, sit with it and let it run through you. I want you too.

People believe that anger is a positive emotion; others are unaware that they hold it like a security blanket.  They have not  yet felt the damage this feeling has on us. They have not yet understood its power and its course. They have not discovered its source.

Anger is a secondary emotion, it is created by underlying feelings far more powerful that are silently stripping us of our power and happiness.  When we do not acknowledge or take care of feelings such as sadness, grief, fear, depression, shame, pride, and resentment we become engulfed by anger.

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Calming the Storm In Your Relationship (for Gay Couples)

Introduction

Conflict in relationships is inevitable. Put two men together with their own set of needs, values, personality traits, and life histories/experiences and you have a fertile ground for potential differences to cause clashes. This is normal and a necessary precursor for growth in your relationship with your boyfriend or partner. Anger is a common emotion that emerges during conflict. While conflict and anger are normal aspects of building and maintaining a relationship with someone, there are right and wrong ways to manage them. This article will address some ways to defuse anger in your disagreements with your lover to ensure a more positive environment to go about negotiating your differences.

Anger Management 101

 

It’s important to realize that when two people are angry with each other, very little of any productive significance will come from these interactions because emotions are high and listening skills tend to be overshadowed by defensiveness. Though cliché, the statement “anger is ok, it’s what you do with it that counts” is very pertinent here. During your conflicts with your partner, you are ultimately responsible for your own feelings and anger. Your partner does not make you angry; you choose how you are going to react, regardless of the contributing factors. The goal is to create an atmosphere where you and your boyfriend can have a constructive communication session free of volatile emotions and where you each can feel heard equally.

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