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Unorthodox Transgender Love

One of my online friends, Sahar, has sent me a very interesting email about the relationship between a male to female and a female to male transgender crossdreamer.

A crossdreamer is understood as a person who get aroused by the idea of being the other sex.

Some researchers, like Ray Blanchard, believes this is caused by some kind of "erotic target location error" ("autogynephilia").

Others, like transactivist Julia Serano and myself, understands it as one of many ways of expressing an inner, repressed, counter-sexual self ("an inner woman or inner man").

Meet the girlfag

Sahar is a male to female transgender crossdreamer who has joined up with a girlfag.

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Dr. Allen Frances and his arguments against the DSM-5

Doctor Allen Frances has caused uproar with his attack on the new American manual for mental diseases. This is highly relevant for transgender persons.

Those who have followed me for a while know that I am very concerned about the fact that both crossdressing and crossdreaming  (“autogynephilia” and “autoandrophilia”) are classified as mental diseases and are included in the American psychiatric manual (the DSM) as well as the WHO ICD counterpart.

I have argued that these phenomena might as well be the psychological expression of natural human diversity as regards gender and sexuality, and that it is the fact that it is society – including psychiatrists who insist on calling this a perversion or a “paraphilia” – that causes the real mental anguish of these people.

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You are not one of us!

The separatists  transwomen intensify their attacks on crossdressers and "transgender", immensely fearful of contamination by association.

White Pride

Separatist ideologue and HBS International general, Rose White, has now declared war on the presence of drag queens in Pride Parades in Calder-dale, Britain. The argument:

“Drag queens – homosexuals dressed as women – and drag kings, women dressed as men, performing as stereotypical crossdressers promote, foster and reinforce the belief among the audience that any bloke in a frock must be a homosexual.” she says. “If these people are allowed to perform in the town in the Pride, they must have a prominent sign stating ‘We are homosexual men – not transexuals’."

In other words: "You are not one of us!"

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New online discussion forum for transgender crossdreamers

Today's launch of a new dicussion forum for transgender crossdreamers is a sign of growing  confidence among men and women who fantasize about being the opposite sex.

There is something that never ceases to amaze me: the fact that transgender people often cause each other as much pain as others cause them.

I have come to the conclusion that all this harassment is caused by a deep felt need to be considered normal: to be accepted as a full blown woman or man, and not something in between.

Transgender people who for some reason are uable to pass in this way, therefore become a threat by assosiation.  "I am not a freak like them!"

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Transgender variety illustrated

I have previously compared the birth of a personality, gender orientation included, as a remix of humanity.
There are literally millions of variables that make up a human being: natural, psychological and cultural. Each and one of us is the end result of a particular mix of such traits.
Most of these traits are not gender orientated. And if you really look at the men and women you know, you will soon see that they do not adhere to the stereotypes of the movies and the adverts.
There are strong, aggressive, and power hungry women who run for public office. There was a time when they would be called "mannish", but not anymore.
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Why do crossdreamers dream of shemales?

Are men that feel attraction to transwomen and crossdressers really crossdreamers (autogynephiliacs)? If so: Can this fascination give us insight into their transgender nature?

"Autogynephilia" is for a good reason one of the most controversial diagnoses in the transgender area. Ray Blanchard argues that gynephilic M2F crossdressers and transwomen are basically heterosexual men who are turned on by the idea of having a woman's body.

I have argued that it is possible to recognize the fact that some men get aroused by feminization fantasies without labeling them as narcissistic perverts or paraphiliacs, i.e. without accepting Blanchard's explanation for why these male bodied persons feel the way they do. I call them M2F crossdreamers.

I also believe we have to look into controversial phenomena like this one if we are to get to the bottom of what the various transgender conditions really are.

Another equally controversial topic is the "transfan" or "transsensual", i.e. men who are attracted to M2F transsexuals, crossdressers or "shemales". In this article I am going to see if that phenomenon can help us get a better understanding of crossdreamers in general.

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The invisible female to male crossdressers and crossdreamers

The myth of the non-existent female to male crossdreamer or crossdresser is crumbling. It turns out that women can be gender confused as well, without being homosexual or even transsexual.

Gender stereotypes have it that only men can be perverts. For some peculiar reason men are the ones who most wholeheartedly promote this standpoint. Many male to female crossdressers, for instance, seem resigned to "the fact" that they are nothing but "fetishist" and that the women they worship never are. They believe it is their male testosterone driven urges that drives them to them dressing up as women. They have no "inner woman".
Many sexologists and most evolutionary psychologists seem to agree. Ray Blanchard, who has looked at men who get turned on by imagining themselves as women, consider these woman-loving "autogynephiliacs" a completely different category from the "homosexual transsexuals" (i.e. M2F man-loving transwomen).
The "autogynephiliacs"  (who I call crossdreamers)  are suffering from a male typcal paraphilia, according to Blanchard, and a can in no way be considered feminine. As for female to male transsexuals, they are all "homosexuals". There are no female to male "paraphiliacs".
I must say that I have found this very strange. Why should the variety of nature bring us male to female  "autogynephiliacs" and crossdressers,  but no female to male "autoandrophiliacs"?
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Reflections on the Proposed DSM5 Revisions and the Role of Community Consultation

The proposed revisions for the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual edition 5 (DSM-5) -- which governs mental health diagnoses -- have been released.

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My Husband is an Autogynephiliac

 On September 18. I got a comment over at my blog that rally touched me.

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