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Unorthodox Transgender Love

One of my online friends, Sahar, has sent me a very interesting email about the relationship between a male to female and a female to male transgender crossdreamer.

A crossdreamer is understood as a person who get aroused by the idea of being the other sex.

Some researchers, like Ray Blanchard, believes this is caused by some kind of "erotic target location error" ("autogynephilia").

Others, like transactivist Julia Serano and myself, understands it as one of many ways of expressing an inner, repressed, counter-sexual self ("an inner woman or inner man").

Meet the girlfag

Sahar is a male to female transgender crossdreamer who has joined up with a girlfag.

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New online discussion forum for transgender crossdreamers

Today's launch of a new dicussion forum for transgender crossdreamers is a sign of growing  confidence among men and women who fantasize about being the opposite sex.

There is something that never ceases to amaze me: the fact that transgender people often cause each other as much pain as others cause them.

I have come to the conclusion that all this harassment is caused by a deep felt need to be considered normal: to be accepted as a full blown woman or man, and not something in between.

Transgender people who for some reason are uable to pass in this way, therefore become a threat by assosiation.  "I am not a freak like them!"

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Transgender variety illustrated

I have previously compared the birth of a personality, gender orientation included, as a remix of humanity.
There are literally millions of variables that make up a human being: natural, psychological and cultural. Each and one of us is the end result of a particular mix of such traits.
Most of these traits are not gender orientated. And if you really look at the men and women you know, you will soon see that they do not adhere to the stereotypes of the movies and the adverts.
There are strong, aggressive, and power hungry women who run for public office. There was a time when they would be called "mannish", but not anymore.
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Why do crossdreamers dream of shemales?

Are men that feel attraction to transwomen and crossdressers really crossdreamers (autogynephiliacs)? If so: Can this fascination give us insight into their transgender nature?

"Autogynephilia" is for a good reason one of the most controversial diagnoses in the transgender area. Ray Blanchard argues that gynephilic M2F crossdressers and transwomen are basically heterosexual men who are turned on by the idea of having a woman's body.

I have argued that it is possible to recognize the fact that some men get aroused by feminization fantasies without labeling them as narcissistic perverts or paraphiliacs, i.e. without accepting Blanchard's explanation for why these male bodied persons feel the way they do. I call them M2F crossdreamers.

I also believe we have to look into controversial phenomena like this one if we are to get to the bottom of what the various transgender conditions really are.

Another equally controversial topic is the "transfan" or "transsensual", i.e. men who are attracted to M2F transsexuals, crossdressers or "shemales". In this article I am going to see if that phenomenon can help us get a better understanding of crossdreamers in general.

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