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A wonderful video by ladyVixion about coming out trans to her father.

ladyVixion is one of my favorite vloggers.  She has made plenty of sassy, humorous and thoughtful work already.  In the middle of that, she told this honest, poignant and human piece about family, self, identity and dignity.  I hope you enjoy it as much as I do.

I came out to my father that I am Transexual - by ladyVixion:

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SOFFA Anthology Call for Submissions

The editors of a new anthology call for submissions on the experiences of significant others, family members, friends and allies (SOFFAs) of transgender and/or gender variant individuals.  The feelings, emotional processes and experiences of those in relationships with transgender and/or gender variant individuals are seldom acknowledged.  That’s why this anthology is so important as a resource and an educational book.  This particular call seeks quality “think-alouds” that are reflections on the experience of being in a relationship with a transgender and/or gender variant loved one.

Our vision for the anthology is not solely focused on partners, but the transitional experiences of those in relationships with transgender persons.

We are interested in personal narratives, stories and reflections from significant others, family members, friends, allies, co-workers, teachers, medical professionals and clergy who are in relationships with transgender and/or gender variant individuals.  Give us your inner dialogues, theories, practices, joys, coming-out stories, challenging moments and transformative events.  We are seeking a multiplicity of voices tackling the intersections of relationships and transgender and/or gender variant identities with sexuality, race, religion, spiritual affiliation, socio-economic status, ability, etc.

We are looking for thoughtful and authentic responses of 1,500-6,000 words.  Only respectful submissions will be considered; however, we expect pieces to document a range of experiences and emotions including confusion, joy, frustration, pain, happiness, identity struggles, fear, anger, anxiety and love.

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Great video: Coming out with Mom

A gay daughter's one-on-one talk with her Mom about coming out.

Michelle from the Beaver Bunch and her Mom discuss questions on coming out.  The Beaver Bunch - where five very different LGBTQ members have come together to break stereotypes, discuss the world at large, and answer your questions.

The Beaver Bunch - where five very different LGBTQ members have come together to break stereotypes, discuss the world at large, and answer your questions.

And should you have any questions (Parents included) email them here :) 

(h/t to @TurboHeather)

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Lovely commercial about trans persons

I saw this and loved it.   It is an advert for Renault and incorporates trans persons in a lovely way.  I am so happy that we are moving forward in this world, away from ignorance and hatred.  Some days, it seems like we're making no progress at all.  But, then something like this comes along and I can see that we are moving to a society of acceptance and embrace.

- arvan

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The Heart of Polyamory: Not Half the Parent You Used to Be

By Millie Jackson

A common argument against polyamory is that it is not a healthy life-style for the children involved. I have never found this argument to hold up. Although I do not have children, I have been involved with people who do. What I have witnessed are very content children getting a lot of positive attention. They are being raised in a diverse and accepting environment while witnessing communication, negotiation, and a team mentality. Often times, they are completely unaware that their “extended family” includes partners of their mommy and/or daddy.

The same guidelines of what is appropriate in regards to what children see and hear about sex are basically the same whether parents are monogamous or polyamorous. How parents portray sex and relationships to their children and how they approach conversations about sex varies greatly from one parenting style to the next. A room full of parents who are proclaimed monogamists will disagree, perhaps passionately, on when and how to approach these topics with children. There will, similarly, be a variety of approaches among polyamorous parents too. Keep in mind that there are not wild orgies happening in front of the children. Nobody should be having sex in front of children regardless of the family dynamics.

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LGBT Parenting Study Seeking Your Family's Input

transparents dads lesmoms

Our online survey explores the ways in which LGBT parents and their children manage social policies and pressures within their communities.  The survey is kind of long—it may take you an hour to complete.  However, we want to learn about each family’s perspectives, experiences, and opinions.  Parents are asked questions about topics such as attitudes in your community, parenting and family relationships, social pressures and sources of support, as well as questions regarding your child(ren).  Children are also welcomed to participate in our study.

At this point, over 150 LGBT families from 24 states have participated, but we want to hear more voices and perspectives.  So far, we only have small numbers of gay dads and trans-parents–we need your help!  We want families from ALL backgrounds: economic, ethnic, spiritual, and disabled diverse families.  With your help, we hope to better understand challenges facing LGBT families and promote social policies that support all families.

If you would like to participate or to learn more about us, please check out our website:

If you have questions, ideas, or comments please feel free to email Beth Haines ( ) or Julie Konik (

Thanks again for your help!

Beth Haines, Julie Konik, and Siobhan Brooks
Sarah Bruemmer and Erin Henzi

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Age 8 and Wanting a Sex Change - 19-October / Channel 4

Bodyshock: Age 8 and Wanting a Sex Change

19 October 2009, 9pm (Belfast)

[Broadcasting in Ireland and then viewable online]

As experts consider a review of UK guidelines for treating transgender children, this film follows a number of children in the US who told their parents they were born in the wrong body.

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Out At Lunch: A New Film About Coming Out

Out At Lunch

A film by Alisa Arnah and Emma Brogen

During their last few days at Cambridge University a tight-knit group of friends prepare for life in the 'real world' as adults, and as lesbians...

Set against the impressive backdrop of Cambridge University, surrounded by history, privilege and tradition, Out at Lunch introduces a group of friends who probably aren't featured in the prospectus.

They’re all lesbians.

We meet the group during their last few days together, as graduation looms and they prepare to go their separate ways. To mark what feels like the end of an era, they’ve organised one last get-together with a difference, it‟s a formal meal and
this time they're inviting the parents!

For some girls, this will be the first time they and their parents have openly acknowledged their sexuality and their relationships.

For most parents, this will be the first time they've ever met other parents whose daughters are gay.

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Lesbian and Gay Parents and Their Children

Lesbian and Gay Parents and Their Children: Research on the Family Life Cycle is the first book-length review and analysis of research on parenting by gay and lesbians and suggests that the outcomes well-being of their children are no different than those raised by heterosexual parents


WHAT: Last week the American Psychological Association published Dr. Abbie E. Goldberg's Lesbian and Gay Parents and Their Children: Research on the Family Life Cycle, a comprehensive summary and analysis of the research on gay and lesbian parents and their families to date. Goldberg's new book is the first full-length analysis of the research on gay parenting, summarizing research data on the subject from the 1970's to the present day. The research is consistent in suggesting that the outcomes and well-being of children raised by gay and lesbian parents are no different than those of children raised by heterosexual parents.

According to Dr. Goldberg, Lesbian and Gay Parents and Their Children: Research on the Family Life Cycle is a response to the increased public awareness and debate about both marriage equality and lesbian/gay parenting, and the corresponding growth in research on this topic. While a number of journal articles and book chapters summarize much of the research in this area, no in-depth book-length synthesis and analysis has existed to date.

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The One Million Moms Against A Modern Family

[Cross-posted from Evil Slutopia.]

Remember a few days ago when I said that it seems like the One Million Moms are just phoning it in with their action alerts lately? Well, I spoke too soon. This week, the Moms are targeting the new ABC comedy Modern Family, which premieres tonight. It doesn't seem like they actually bothered to watch the premiere before condemning the show, but thanks to an advanced screening offer from Television Without Pity, I was able to watch it earlier today so that I'd know just how wrong the Moms are this time.

Let's break down their barely-there action alert:

Let ABC know you will not be watching 'Modern Family' ABC's new comedy "Modern Family" series premiere is Wednesday, September 23rd at 9:00/8:00 central. ABC claims "Modern Family" will be their # 1 show, but most Christians would disagree.

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