Maybe I do share orgasms with others; but, I believe they are not just about the physical onset of ecstasy. Maybe it’s something a little deeper…
So last week, I provided an article that discusses the correlation between our brain chemistry and how we build relationships. In fact, writer, Dr. Helen Ph.D., suggests that there are three chemical occurrences in our brain that catalyze our need or desire for “monogamy”:
“The sex drive (associated primarily with the testosterone system in both men and women) developed foremost to motivate us to seek sex with a range of partners. Romantic love (associated primarily with the dopamine system) evolved to enable us to focus our time and metabolic energy on just one individual at a time. And the attachment system (primarily associated with the oxytocin and vasopressin systems) emerged to motivate us to sustain a pair-bond long enough to rear at least one child through infancy as a team.”
That said, while Dr. Fischer acknowledges these systems’ motives, she also acknowledges that these systems don’t work well with one another. Sometimes the testosterone may flow heavier than, say, the dopamine. Or perhaps the vasopressin and oxytocin systems are working over time. Let’s not disregard the myriad of external influences that we use to make decisions about who we have sex with, why we have sex, and what sex will eventually mean for us.
