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Declaration of Sexual Rights

(I found this today at The Cuntshop and felt that it bears repeating.)

Declaration of Sexual Rights

Sexual rights are fundamental and universal human rights that are described in the "Declaration of Sexual Rights." This declaration, since adopted by the World Health Organization, was first drawn up by the World Association of Sexologists at its 1999 conference in Hong Kong:

Declaration of Sexual Rights

Sexuality is an integral part of the personality of every human being. Its full development depends upon the satisfaction of basic human needs such as the desire for contact, intimacy, emotional expression, pleasure, tenderness, and love.

Sexuality is constructed through the interaction between the individual and social structures. Full development of sexuality is essential for individual, interpersonal, and societal well being.

Sexual rights are universal human rights based on the inherent freedom, dignity, and equality of all human beings. Since health is a fundamental human right, so must sexual health be a basic human right.

In order to assure that human beings and societies develop healthy sexuality, the following sexual rights must be recognized, promoted, respected, and defended by all societies through all means. Sexual health is the result of an environment that recognizes, respects, and exercises these sexual rights.

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Compersion: Love as Space

Photo by Eric Francis.

This article is being discussed on the Planet Waves blog.

There are good reasons compersion feels like such a radical idea; why for example feeling good about your partner’s relationship with someone else feels so radical. It does; to most, the notion seems unconscionable. There are the ordinary ones: we ‘don’t want to think about that kind of thing’ or we equate monogamy (or the appearance of monogamy) with loyalty. That loyalty is the razor’s edge between being ‘with someone’ and ‘being alone’.

But let’s say you’re willing to go past the primal fear; you’re willing to think about it, even willing to feel it, and it starts to make sense that your partner is free and part of that freedom is opening the space inside yourself and in the relationship for them to have any experience they want. Let’s say you figure out that logic leaves you no choice but to extend your partner all the freedom they want or need.

What is so loving about attempting to define, limit or control the emotions or experiences of another person? Nothing at all; we just call it love to make it sound nice. Not all monogamous relationships have this as their basis, but we tend to see and experience this dynamic pretty frequently.

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The Heart of Polyamory: Independence Daze

 

By Millie Jackson

Around the 4th of July, I always find myself thinking a lot about freedom.  Freedom, as in having full license and liberty to be our true selves, trusting the power of our individuality and having the strength and courage to stand apart instead of being controlled by outside influences.  Self-acceptance is at the heart of emotional wellness and healthy self-expression.

Every year, I use this holiday to assess how freely I am expressing my genuine self.  Having never been comfortable in the closet, I am continually expanding the ways that I am visible and vocal as a polyamory activist and member of the LGBTQ community. 

How free are you in expressing who you authentically are (not necessarily in regard to your sexuality but in all aspects of your being)?  How influenced are you by what someone else has determined to be right, wrong, moral, normal, etc?  Are you trying to define yourself within the context of someone else’s antiquated and fear-filled ideologies?  Trying to be someone else’s definition of “normal” deprives this world of the gift of our unique and beautiful expressions.

Just because “normal” is “the usual or expected state corresponding with a pattern” does not mean it is necessarily healthy or productive.  Having rarely fallen into the category, I am suspicious of that which is considered “normal”.  I see how adeptly fear and misunderstanding have been used to manipulate people on behalf of narrow and corrupt agendas for the sake of preserving “tradition”. 

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