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What to do when one finds a triggering, and sexist, blog

We've all seen the terrible blogs, those that bash women, sexualize them, make them seem like objects, and promote rape culture. We all know, and most who are not part of the feminist blogosphere usually can tell right away, that these type of blogs are bad.

But when I ran across this blog, with that terribly triggering image suggesting eating is pathetic, how is one who's not trained to spot such damaging content to recognize their being fooled, tricked, manipulated into hating their own bodies?

In the blog's "about" section, it mentions this blog is for "thinspiration".. meaning it's a pro-ana, or pro-anorexia /eating disorder website that works to support those with eating disorders by posting pictures of skinny models- someone's motivation to be skinny.

If one were to run across this blog and he/she is recovering, suffering, or has suffered from an eating disorder, the trigger from this image in particular and the overall content and language of that blog is immediate. Bad feelings of low self esteem come rushing back and the urge to revert to old habits reemerge.

There is no trigger warning or disclaimer before one enters this site, therefor, anyone perusing the net can stumble upon this tumblr blog (no pun intended) and be persuaded to think :

a) this picture, the depiction of that woman and the entire blog are normal.

b) "skinny" is better than "fat"

c) the picture of this model is untouched and un-photoshopped (which is undoubtedly is )

d) perpetuating the myth of skinny equals beauty is normal and glamorous

All of these issues are those which many advocates against negative portrayals of women in the media write/blog/work against. In this, it is sad that this young woman that presumably runs this blog is so careless in her attempt at achieving her ideal , and a reflection of society at large, of beauty.

To me, this is an opportunity to report the blog to someone or a group that can help. It isn't so much as willfully hateful, rather, the blog is sexist and harmful in a more ignorant and unintentional way. The young women certainly deserves her right to say and type what she wants, yet she seems as if she doesn't really know the damage her blog can do.

So, in this case, report to tumblr, request a disclaimer and hope that real guidance and help is offered to this young woman and anyone else who runs a blog such as the one I've linked.

(Posted at Women Undefined)

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Announcing! LOVED BODIES, BIG IDEAS Contest

Tired of talktalktalking about how toxic our culture is for girls and women, particularly in relation to their bodies?  Craving to take action?  Brimming with good ideas but suffering from a lack of support?  Then this is your moment.

The Women’s Therapy Centre Institute is thrilled to announce the LOVED BODIES, BIG IDEAS Contest.

We need your BIG IDEA in response to the following question:

What is one bold action that could make the world truly value

the diversity of women and girls’ bodies?

All of the BIG IDEAS will be considered by a team of expert judges and the three most thrilling and original ones will be chosen as winners. These winners will be invited to present their ideas in 10-minute presentations at the Endangered Species Summit in March of 2011 in New York City in front of a power-packed audience of media representatives, philanthropists, public intellectuals, activists, therapists, and more. It is our hope that the energy in the room will propel these ideas into real, bonafide action!

All travel and accommodations for the three BIG IDEAS winners will be covered by the Women’s Therapy Centre Institute.

Note: if you don’t win, your idea will not go to waste! All of the BIG IDEAS submitted will be included in our online idea gallery as a resource for body image advocates across the world.

To submit to the contest, please email a 500 word (maximum) BIG IDEA essay to Contest Manager, Shirley Kailas: by December 1, 2010, 6:00 pm.  Please include your name, age, email, phone #, and any organizational affiliation you have on the top of the page.

A few examples of the kinds of BIG IDEAS we’re hoping for include: A nationally-recognized curriculum on body image, disordered eating and exercise, and the limits of the BMI measurement for medical schools, legislation on body toxic advertising during television targeted at children and teens, or a campaign to end diet commercials on a show primarily targeting women.

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Call for Submissions - Body Culture: Image, Appearance, Personhood

This call for work from Paradigm Shift deals with body image in the media and cultural terms. -arvan

Call for guest blog, video, and graphic art submissions in preparation for Paradigm Shift’s next event:

BODY TYPED short films on perfection

Screening & Discussion Featuring

JESSE EPSTEIN, Sundance award-winning Filmmaker

BODY TYPED is a series of short films about body image, media, and cultural identity that will be combined to make a feature documentary. The films use humor to raise serious concerns about the marketplace of commercial illusion and unrealizable standards of physical perfection.

When Dee-Dee the barber learns about the art of photo-retouching, he may never look at his “wall of beauty” the same way again.
Short Subject Jury Award, 2004 Sundance Film Festival

A dancer’s hilarious story about his prominent nose and the effect if has on his career.
Best Short Film, 2007 Newport International Film Festival

A look at mannequins, religion, and perfection.
SXSW, Full Frame, True/False, National PBS Broadcast on POV

WEDNESDAY, AUGUST 18th at 6:30 pm
Just outside the Feminist District

The Tank- 354 West 45th Street (between 8th & 9th Ave.)
Subway: A,C,E to 42nd Street/Times Square

Cost: $12 students/ pre-paid, $15 at door

Facebook invite:

Submission Deadline- August 22
Use these prompts as guidelines for submissions; essays, poetry, and artwork in all forms accepted:

- the effect of stereotypes on bodies

- body image and health

- expectations that friends and family have of our bodies

- how appearances intersect with gender and sexuality

- the portrayal of bodies in the media

- body empowerment

- social acceptance versus personal acceptance

Submit responses to Please include how you would like to be credited (name, anonymous etc). Video submissions- please submit YouTube private link. Email subject line: Your Name- Blog post- 3/30 Event. content is licensed under a Creative Commons License.

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Joy Nash's New Video on Fat & Self: Staircase Wit

I found Joy through Happy Bodies today.  Check out their blog, for sure.  I watched this video and think Joy is onto something here.  The first two-thirds of it are solid enough, with treatments of friends, families and strangers and the impact they have on our lives.  However, the last part of this video goes right to the heart of how we view ourselves and the impact we have on our future with the choices we make right now.

Check out her blog (now on our blogroll) and other site here:

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Photo by Eric Francis.

So there I was at this beyond-gay party in a high-rise apartment with Manhattan as the landscape, stalking her by scent. Watching her move around the room, tracking this succulent critter and enjoying the subtlest details of her existence.

I felt amazingly, solidly sexually centered in myself. I recognized the feeling, rooted in an orgasm a day before, seeing myself with Jane on the line. She was listening, holding open the space of absolute approval of my submission of self-to-self as I faced a mirror. We do this for one another. I dropped into place, then. My soul settled into my hearth. I took that feeling with me: my sense of self-approval.

I don’t remember how or when, but next I was leaning against the island kitchen counter, facing the city, while the waiters plied their trade: hand-manufactured those cute crab salad cones and so on, and bustled off into the giddy environment of the soiree and passed around the treats. You’ll always find me in the kitchen at parties.

And then, though I don’t know how exactly, I was face to face with Maggie. That was her name.

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Seeking: Fat Rights Spokesperson

Rachel over at is looking for a media contact to help support and advocate for fat rights.  If this matters to you and you have the desire to participate, please contact her. -a

By Rachel

As the media contact for The Fat Rights Coalition and a personal blogger who writes on issues of eating disorders and body acceptance, I field lots of public relations requests from media outlets worldwide, from international luminaries like CNN and The New York Times to small town papers looking to make a local connection on a larger issue.  I’ve participated in some of these public debates in the past, but because I am a journalist myself, I have made the decision to limit my involvement to helping my fellow journalists out behind-the-scenes and referring them to other activists who will speak on the record. And that’s where you come in.  I’m making what I fondly call my Big Fat Rolodex so that I can easily and quickly refer future media requests to the right activist or field professional. 

While I am looking for professionals like social workers, doctors, researchers, professors, lawyers, health care workers, therapists/psychologists, nutritionists and fitness experts etc… I am also looking for anyone with personal experiences with eating disorders (who don’t mind sharing details of their disorder), weight-based discrimination and fat rights activism.  If the Fatosphere has taught us anything, it’s that the personal is indeed political.

If you’d like to be included as a potential media contact, please send the below information in an email to Rachel (at) the-f-word (dot) org with “Media Contact” as the subject.

  • Real name, first and last
  • E-mail address
  • Phone number (optional)
  • Region: state and country
  • Website address (if applicable)
  • Available for: Radio, TV, Print
  • Area(s) of interest: i.e. fat rights, eating disorders, health, nutrition and fitness, legal issues, fat studies
  • Relevant credentials: (certifications, degrees, affiliations, personal experience)

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Fat Studies Reader Book Signing & Reading

Friday, December 4, 2009
8:00pm - 11:00pm
Re/Dress NYC
109 Boerum Place
Brooklyn, NY

Published by NYU Press, The Fat Studies Reader is a milestone achievement, bringing together fifty-three diverse voices to explore a wide range of topics related to body weight. From the historical construction of fatness to public health policy, from job discrimination to social class disparities, from chick-lit to airline seats, this collection covers it all.

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Call for Beautiful Cunt PICTURES

Hi everybody,

I'm starting a beautiful cunt project...  Basically, on every Thursday, I will post an anonymous picture of someone's pussy. In the hopes of showcasing the multitude of infinite and beautiful differences that are found in female genitalia.  And in the process foster self-acceptance and put an end to "does that look right?" "is that normal?" and things of the like.

Now, of course to do this, I need some brave souls to send me a picture of their vag.  I'm hoping to put a first one up on Thursday.

If you would like to participate or if you know someone who would, you can send me an email and a picture, which should simply state your age, vaginal health (meaning explain any scars, operations, tests, etc), and your reproductive history as well as any other pertinent information you feel like sharing.  That can be anything from a pet name to your feelings and thoughts about your vagina.

The pictures can be of your pussy with your lips spread, or closed and at rest.  Optimally both would be good.  Just don't send me anything overtly sexual, meaning I don't want any picture of cock and pussy action or vibrators and the like.  Just your pussy please.  

Also, only over 18 years old pussy, please.

You can send any submission to my email address: and you don't even have to tell me who you are.  Use your dummy email account for all I care.

Have yourselves a cunthappy day,


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Codename: Lucille | We weren't alone

Codename: Lucille

I didn’t take my cameras out of my bag till I had a really good reason to, and that reason was Lucille.

This is her modeling codename and it’s taking a little getting used to; I know her by a different name. It doesn’t really matter. As one trippy boy who was an astute scholar of the occult announced one evening, Lucille was the embodiment of Venus on the playa.

There was something blissful and as-if-I-were-dreaming about this girl, with her floods of red hair and unabashed openness about sex. Young (23 years old), gorgeous and a delightful mix of sweet and salty, she seemed to be around Poly Paradise every time I walked into the main tent, though her real home was a dance-themed camp across the street.

(NSFW image in full post)

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Fluvia stars in short film about size, self-love and beauty

Plus-size Brazilian model, Fluvia Lacerda, stars in '16', a short film that challenges the stereotypes of beauty currently set by the film, fashion, and advertising industries. The film is a departure from the norm, as Lacerda is a size 16, rather than the usual size 2.

"Today women think they must fit unachievable molds in order to feel beautiful and sexy", says Lacerda. "As a curvy woman I have always felt sexy under my skin and this film carries that very message, a message I hope will open people's minds with regard to how diverse beauty can be.

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