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An SGB Interview with Cathy & Peter of CathysCraving.com

A few years ago, I met Cathy & Peter at an adult content trade show.  Cathy handed me her business card, which stated:

"Horniest housewife on the Internet" 

Being a smartass that I am, I immediately remarked that this is a very bold claim and wondered what certification they had to prove this.  We ended up chatting throughout the evening and again over the rest of that show.  We started talking about their production company and websites.  Cathy & Peter are married and produce & distribute adult content on their own websites.  Cathy is the talent and Peter is the principal camera.  They raise kids, shoot porn, travel the world and (apparently) hang out at trade shows talking to salespeople like me. 

From the minute I met them, I really was struck with how normal they are.  Cathy has a reputation for being a menace behind the wheel of a car, Peter is fucking funny and they're just two people who found a way to mix career, marriage, fun & sex together.  What could be better than that?  I sure as hell can't think of anything. 

As anyone who works with or around the adult content industry knows, there is a difference between the person and the persona.  The person pays bills, falls in love, buys a house, drives to work, takes a vacation and plans for retirement.  The persona is either who they project themselves to be as part of theater of sex and fantasy; or who their critics make them out to be as they make money by extoling the evils of sex.  For some time, I have wanted to interview people in the adult content / sex work business and let them speak for themselves in the language they choose to describe their own lives.  Cathy & Peter were the first people I wanted to speak with. 

SGB. What terms do you use to identify yourself as individuals and as a couple?

C&P. Not sure if we understand exactly want you mean by this question. We see ourselves as a happily married couple with an open relationship. Open in the sense that we include other people in our sex lives. Unlike some other people living in a similar relationship, however, we are always together whenever another person is involved.

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An SGB Interview with Vyckie Garrison of No Longer Quivering

Vyckie Garrison

Vyckie Garrison runs a website called No Longer Quivering, which assists women in transitioning from abusive, oppressive and servile roles as breeding servants of husbands and an interpretation of the Bible called The Quiverful movement.  The site features the stories of women and families, told in their own words - about the harsh price paid by women and children in oppressive, strict religion.  Most of the stories are painful to read, but I encourage you to read them.  The knowledge of what these women go through in order to provide healthy lives for themselves and their children - is breathtaking.  Vyckie also operates a site called The Take Heart Project, to support women in all religions who seek to free themselves of oppression, brutality & dehumanization in the name of a god. 

I invited Vyckie to be interviewed here on SGB because her story is a powerful one, which is shared in full or in part by a great many women across the globe. 

SGB: Looking back at your life, who were you before Quiverfull that you are no longer?  Who are you since leaving Quiverfull?
 
VG: Before Quiverfull, I was a young girl with a lifetime and the whole world before me ~ I was smart, competent, relatively healthy, ambitious ~ I wanted to make a difference.  I wanted to do "something big."
 
Only I didn't know what that "something big" might be.  I had a 4.0 GPA in college ~ so I knew that I could do pretty much whatever I wanted.  The problem for me was that everything seemed so very interesting ~ I wanted to do it all!!
 
But I was also very insecure and fearful.  Decision making was a terribly scary thing for me ~ what if I made the wrong choice?  Worse yet ~ what if I failed?  I wanted to know with absolute certainty that I was doing the right thing.  I had the idea that if I prayed to God for guidance and searched the bible, I could discern God's will for my life.  It was an appealing idea ~ after all, Who would know better than my Creator what was right and best for me?
 
So I went to bible college and I became a student of the Word.  Through diligent study, plus the help of many fundamentalist teachers ~ I discovered that God had very specific plans for me as a woman.  He created me female ~ gave me a womb ~ and if I was to be fulfilled and joyful and pleasing to the Lord ~ I needed to give my womb over in service to Him.  I learned that as a woman, the Lord created me to be a suitable helper for my husband ~ to bear his children and assist him in training them up to love and serve the Lord with their whole beings ~ mind, body, soul and strength.
 
Sure, I could've done anything I wanted with my life ~ but what higher calling could there be for me as a woman than to be sober, to love my husband, to love my children, to be discreet, chaste, a keeper at home, good, obedient to my own husband, that the word of God be not blasphemed? (Titus 2:4,5)
 
What I did in actuality was to give up my power ~ my agency ~ severely limiting my choices in life.  I chose to have no choice ~ all for the security of having that absolute certainty that I was doing the very best thing with my talents and abilities.  I had discovered a formula for godly family living ~ one that promised strength and guidance, favor with God ~ with all the requisite blessings of those who walked in His ways, peace beyond understanding, and eternal reward in the life to come.  After all, Jesus taught us that a man who seeks to save his life shall lose it ~ but whoever loses his life for Christ's sake shall find it.
 
It was all so real ~ so all-consuming.  I could not imagine that without it, there would be any "me" at all ~ my entire identity was wrapped up in following Christ and the Word of God.
 
When I began to have doubts ~ when I no longer trusted the Bible as my guidebook for daily living ~ I became rather anxious, so I scrambled to figure out what of Christianity I could hold onto ~ to say, "This, I still believe."
 
But I came up empty ~ none of it makes sense to me anymore.  Which kind of puts me back at square one.  The difference is ~ this time, I am not afraid.  I do not need to have all the answers ~ in fact, I'm beginning to like the uncertainty and ambiguity.  I don't mind so much anymore that life's a struggle and things get messy and we're all a little screwy at times.  I am much more relaxed and willing to take life as it comes.  I don't feel a need for a sure-fire formula or guaranteed outcomes.  The pressure is off and I am enjoying the simplicity of living life in the moment.

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Ynot.com Interviews Aly Sinclair!

by Peter Berton YNOT

Sultry t-girl porn star Aly Sinclair has been described as “punk,” “alt porn,” “busty,” and having “legs that won’t quit.” But one last word needs to be added to Aly’s description: Busy!

YNOT: First, tell us a bit about yourself.

Aly: I’ve been a performer for 5 years in the adult industry, and I couldn’t have found a better job to suit my tastes. I consider myself a very lucky girl to have transitioned and found tremendous acceptance. Along with that came a mess of fun too. I’ll tell you more about it.

YNOT: When did you discover you were a t-girl, and how did you come out?

Aly: I have memories from as old as 6 where I would search out ways to find out more about femininity. I never questioned why I liked it so much. I just did and that was all that mattered. I first had some fun with a guy when I was 18. By some chance circumstances, I met the right persons at the right time and was able to learn that transition was really an option. I had just graduated college and finally felt free enough to do it. I started hormones 6 months after graduation and I came out to the folks and friends about that time too. It was surreal at the time to discuss transgender subjects with family and folks that you had masked your behavior from for so long. Most said they knew for a while. And most said they didn’t care. They were happy for me. It was great, truly. I am very thankful. I am sure you can understand what a relief it is to remove the proverbial guise. I love being a girl. And I love it more to be open about it with other hot guys and girls.

YNOT: What were your biggest motivations for coming out?

Aly: If I didn’t transition at 23, I think I would have lived in fear forever. That was unacceptable. That was my biggest motivation. I didn’t like who I was. I had to remedy that. Hormones and a nice doctor who gave me wonderful boobs helped me do that! I love my doctors!

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Help Needed For Gender Perceptions Dissertation Recruiting

To Whom It May Concern:

I am a doctoral candidate at Alliant International University, San Diego. For my dissertation, I am examining gender perceptions among people with various sexual orientations/gender identities.

The research study was developed in consultation with my dissertation committee, LGBT individuals, and was approved by the institutional review board (IRB) at Alliant International University.

I am looking for CA residents (18+ years old) to complete an anonymous online questionnaire, available at: www.genderstudy.info (instead of .org or .com).  More specifically, I am recruiting (a) heterosexual individuals, (b) parents of heterosexual individuals, and (c) parents of transgendered individuals. 

(I have fortunately already gathered enough responses from transgendered individuals, gay/lesbian individuals, and parents of gay/lesbians.)

I hope that this study will contribute to further understanding of the understudied and underserved population.  I also believe the knowledge gained from this study will help therapists in addressing issues related to sexual and gender orientation.

I would appreciate if you could help circulate this information.  Additionally, I would be happy to provide more information or fliers upon request.

Thank you,

Jennifer Mato, M.A., LMFT
Marital and Family Therapy Doctoral Candidate
Alliant International University (San Diego)
jmato@alliant.edu

Dissertation chair: Narumi Taniguchi, Ph.D.

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Interview with Erika Kane!

Interview with Erika Kane!

Sunday, September 06, 2009 by M. Dickinson

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Interview with Serena Anderlini by Camilia Raznovich (Tatami Rai Tre)

Tatami RaiTre

February 15th, 2009

Script of the Interview with Serena Anderlini-D’Onofrio, Minutes: 20-30

Participants: Hostess Camilla Raznovich; Guests: Serena Anderlini, Michela Marzano, Ricky Tognazzi

Camilla Raznovich: Good evening, Serena Anderlini, theorist and practitioner of polyamory, a topic about which she has written many books. So, I’d like to understand how you figured out that you had a tendency to love more than one partner at the same time.

Serena Anderlini: I figured it out because I loved the people with whom my partners fell in love. If they fell in love with them, I fell in love with them too, and so I wanted to transform the negative energies of hatred, envy, jealousy, into a positive energy in which I was able to share this love. It was a rather long path because one cannot easily transform a negative sentiment into a positive one, one has to go though a whole process of inner transformation, a spiritual process that makes one capable of embracing a type of love that is not possessive. For me this is comparable to a father, or a mother, who have twelve children. Will the twelve children be less loved? No. At times in these big families people love each other a lot, so why can’t this multiplicity also happen also in the area of partners, why? Why is love for our children supposed to be altruistic and love for one’s partners egotistic? Why?

CR: And at this time, how many partners do you have?

SA: I didn’t come here to tell you that. It’s none of your business. (Applause.)

CR: But you have more than one at the same time?

SA: Sometimes I do and sometimes I don’t.

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