LGBT Advice

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Am I ready to be a Lesbian Parent?

So it's decided, you can't walk pass the baby aisle at Target without whimpering you want one. You keep looking at each other wondering what your little bundle of joy will look like and what part each of you will play in the baby's life! You already started picking names and have transformed the extra room into a nursery! You want a baby, you're talking about getting more involved in your girlfriend's child or children's lives, or maybe you're talking about adoption! But are you ready for a child?

With any couple it's important that you talk about having a baby or children seriously before going through the process. It's a lifetime commitment to another human being with no take backs! Having a child needs to be a choice that feels comfortable within yourself and as a couple. As well as deciding to become more involved in your partners offspring is a serious matter, the attachment a child forms can be a model for future relationships, and as you all know abandonment can stay scared beyond the early years.

In the LGBT world we have so many obstacles as it is and walls we need to break through it is vital for a child's success that you have to be willing to accept and educate the challenges that you'll have to face as a Lesbian mom or LGBT parent. Being stable in all areas of life will make the journey of having children a lot easier, so explore where you are financial, career wise, mentally, emotionally, and as a relationship. One big mistake so many people do, no matter what our sexual orientation, is to have a child to keep the relationship. The truth is that having a baby is so stressful from conception to the delivery and beyond that if there is no solid foundation within your relationship it will crumble!  So are you ready?

Alex Karydi's picture

Save your Gay soul before you get RIGHTS!

I'm writing in anger and frustration! I am saddened by the world I live in and the social ignorance I am surrounded by. People have asked me if I want my face on my article or want the fact that I am gay broadcasted, wondering if I worry about people finding out.

Are you serious?  You think I should hide because I am gay, because I love women? Because I want the same rights as everyone else and one day MARRY the woman of my dreams.  Do you want me silent and deaf to your cruel and uneducated remarks?  You have another thing coming!  Not only will I not stay quite, not only will I not hide, I will stand proud and strong and I will fight for everything I am and for my community!  I will fight for a life I want and deserve.

But more than anything I will fight for my child, so that she never has to hear in her lifetime someone tell her that her mother has a mental illness, is brain-damaged, or is choosing to be a homosexual and will go to hell (which unfortunately has been told to me on several occasions.)  I am going to fight so the women, human beings I connect with and love can share my life with me and without worries about not having the same Privileges and Rights as every other committed married couple.

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