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One Angry Lesbian- The Power of Anger Management

“Of the good in you I can speak, but not of the evil.

For what is evil but good tortured by its own hunger and thirst?

Verily when good is hungry it seeks food even in dark caves, and when it thirsts it drinks even of dead waters.”

Kahlil Gibran

Everyday we will encounter those who create anger within us. We will meet people who share the belief that those different from them are filth, vermin, something that needs to be eradicated.

They will look at you and you will feel the hatred and disgust. You will have to endure it, sit with it and let it run through you. I want you too.

People believe that anger is a positive emotion; others are unaware that they hold it like a security blanket.  They have not  yet felt the damage this feeling has on us. They have not yet understood its power and its course. They have not discovered its source.

Anger is a secondary emotion, it is created by underlying feelings far more powerful that are silently stripping us of our power and happiness.  When we do not acknowledge or take care of feelings such as sadness, grief, fear, depression, shame, pride, and resentment we become engulfed by anger.

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Self-Entitlement... The Ins and Outs!

I am sitting on the floor with my girl Lisa, messing about, laughing stupidly at our past psychodykos and the dumb things we have done for love as we paged through books on codependency.  We were having a great discussion on the importance of being healthy before entering a relationship and continuing to stay on track with our stability while sharing our lives with one another.

Unfortunately, it would not turn out for the rest of the day to stay in this childlike foolish behavior.  I would end up sitting silently watching my friend like a small child wrap her arms around her legs and dig her face into her knees as to protect herself from a furious blow.

Scared, terrified and with agitation she gazes up at me and says “tell me you’re joking! Are you serious! Shut up Alex I know your just playing with me and it’s not funny!” I look back at her, slightly sickened and hurt as to our discovery and calmly tell her “no babe I would not lie to you. I definitely would not joke like this or hurt you.”

I look back down at my phone, filtering through my emails and the dates to make sense of it all but there really is no justification and the reality is scary, manipulative and hurtful.

As I read the emails from a third party who approached me as an interested reader of my work, my friend and I would soon discover that it was her most recent ex-girlfriend who had manipulatively tried to find out information from me as she thought there may be more to my friends relationship with me. Subsequently, by the end of the following day the truth would come out and several actions would be taken to hurt and manipulate my friend further.

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