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Survey of Donor-Conceived Youth and Adults with LGBTQ Parents


We have assembled the following survey intended for donor conceived youth and adults who have one or more LGBTQ identified parents.  Over the years the Donor Sibling Registry (DSR) has gathered information from a myriad of families, but we believe predominantly more heterosexual.  We think the issues for LGBTQ families are both similar and quite different. The results of this survey will be used to both better understand and to begin to construct resources that are designed to meet the needs of our families.  Our goal is to provide an accurate reflection of experiences and to assist families in having meaningful dialogue related to the challenges specific to our community.

Please note that this survey tool was designed by members of the DSR who are also identified as LGBTQ.  Two are also licensed therapists.


A NOTE TO PARENTS: This survey is designed for mature school aged youth and above. Please review the questions to make sure that they are age appropriate for your child. Some of the questions deal with potentially difficult topics for families. Again, our goal is to understand our children’s experiences so that we can design and provide better resources for families as we go forward.

If you only have one parent, please answer questions for Parent B (bio parent).

PLEASE NOTE: Many questions will allow more than one answer.

We appreciate your time (should take no more than 15 minutes).

Thank you!

The Donor Sibling Registry

Take the Survey Here.

Wendy Kramer


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(Re)Figuring Sex: Somatechnical (Re)Visions

(Re)Figuring Sex: Somatechnical (Re)Visions

A conference organised by the Somatechnics Research Centre, Macquarie

20-21st November 2009
Sydney Australia

Recent theory has thoroughly critiqued traditional ways of imag(in)ing sex/gender and sexuality, challenging its tendency to render invisible those ways of being in the world which undermine such normative structures.  Such critiques have developed sophisticated ways of understanding embodiment and its representation, investigating perception/s, issues of visibility and visuality, and the effects on the lived experiences of those both within and without the norm: the effects of sexed imaginaries shape the experiences of the unusual and anomalous, and the everyday and conventional.

This conference, the 5th international Somatechnics Conference, takes as its central concern, then, the interplay between visuality and embodiment, and seeks papers engaged across a variety of areas extending from critical engagements with representations of sex and/or bodies, through to analyses of the shaping of perception/s as one facet of bodily being-in-the-world.

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Sexual Minorities Uganda (SMUG) Condemn the Tabled Anti-Homosexuality Bill

[via IGLHRC]

As a network of human rights activists, working in the areas of sexual rights as well as other human rights issues, we write to urge you to oppose a repressive bill which was tabled in Parliament of Uganda on 14th October 2009.  This bill is a blow to the steady progress of democracy in Uganda. It proposes criminalization of advocacy and support for the rights of homosexual Ugandans.  It also prohibits any public discussion or expression of gay and lesbian lives and any organizing around sexual orientation.  In doing so, it violates the basic rights to freedom of
expression, conscience, association, and assembly, as well as internationally recognized protections against discrimination.  The proposed bill intention is to divide and discriminate against the Ugandan homosexual population, and exclude them from participation in public life, which goes against the inclusive spirit necessary for our economic as well as political development. Its spirit is profoundly undemocratic and un-African.

Over the recent months increased campaigns of violence have gone uncontrolled.  The violence directed at homosexual Ugandans has resulted in the unwarranted arrests of many people; there are eight ongoing cases in various courts all over Uganda of which four accused persons are unable to meet the harsh bail conditions set against them.  These acts of violence have now resulted in the deaths of several homosexual people, such as Brian Pande at Mbale Hospital as he awaited trial.  This bill aggravates stigma and hatred; and renders all promised protections enshrined in the constitution for all Ugandan citizens void.

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HIV-AIDS and Homophobia in Timor-Leste

(via East Timor Law and Justice Bulletin)

In its Comments on the U.S. Department of State Country reports on Human Rights Practices for 2008, the East Timor and Indonesia Action Network (ETAN) andWest Papua Advocacy Team (WPAT) noted that, in East Timor:

There is pervasive bias against homosexuals, keeping nearly all closeted.

People with HIV/AIDS are largely unidentified due to lack of public information and testing.

HIV may be far more widespread than public health officials admit, according to some experts.

AIDS casualties are listed as dying from tuberculosis or other opportunistic diseases.

The lack of access for HIV-positive people to information, testing and health care, combined with common extramarital sexual relations, will likely kill many people in coming years.

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Rahim Mohammadi Executed in Iran for A Homosexual Act - Lavat (October 14, 2009)

On October 6, 2009, Rahim Mohammadi was executed in Tabriz, a city in northwest Iran, after being convicted of sexual abuse and rape during sexual relations between males (a homosexual act called Lavat).

According to Rahim’s lawyer (here), Mr. Mohammad Mostafayi, there was not enough evidence presented to the court to prove such accusations; the court nevertheless decided that once a person is convicted of Lavat, he must be executed.  Mostafayi, who had not been informed of the court’s decision once it was handed down - and was only contacted after his client Rahim had been executed - wrote a letter of further explanation to the authorities.

"Rahim Mohammadi was first arrested for blackmail in June 2008; over the years, due to financial problems, he had used his wife to seduce men, inviting them to their house in order for them to have sex with her.  He would record the encounters on tape and use these tapes to blackmail them.  There was no witness or evidence to prove that Rahim had committed a homosexual act; a complainant who had claimed that he’d been raped by Rahim withdrew the charges," says Mostafayi.  In Iran, in the case of an accusation of Lavat (based on the Islamic punishment code stated here), even if there are no witnesses or evidence, the judge can decide at his own discretion to condemn the accused.

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Intersex: Designing the Margin of Feasible Bodies

By Silvia García Dauder and Nuria Gregori [Eurozine]

Truths and binary oppositions in the construction of sexes-genders-sexualities.

The controversy around the gender of the South African athlete Caster Semenya is by no means unprecedented. As Nuria Gregori and Silvia Garcia Dauder write, the world of sport is a social microcosm that reveals much about the role of assumptions concerning biological sex in a psychosocial logic in which gender identity, sexual orientation or sexual practice exerts maximum authority.

    I recall one night lying in bed after having made love to my partner.  I remember that my clitoris still felt the heat and the dampness of the inside of her vagina.  I felt good.  But I wondered, perhaps I will be the only woman who will have done this?  Am I the only woman lucky enough to have a clitoris which knows the feeling of penetrating? (Kim, 1999:99). [1]

It is in this very clear and provocative way that Kim introduces her contribution to the anthology Intersex in the Age of Ethics, one of the first publications to talk about the experiences of people who were previously stigmatized and condemned to silence.  Kim's transgression lies not only in the fact that she reveals and narrates her lesbian relationship, but in that, as a woman, she narrates how her clitoris is capable of penetrating a vagina.  Biomedicine considers Kim's clitoris to be "ambiguous", "deformed", "abnormal", or "offensive"; it is treated as a hypertrophic clitoris, a mega clitoris or a phallic clitoris.  All of these terms imply that there is something unacceptable about the fact that their size exceeds the limits of what is expected of a woman in our society.

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Ending Transphobia in the Human Resources Administration

Transgender activists and allies have been urging the New York department of Social Service's Human Resources Administration to address the issues of transphobia and harassment that gender variant folks face when seeking access to welfare and/or public assistance programs.

The TransJustice program of the Audre Lorde Project has developed a procedure to address these injustices. To date the HRA has not made any improvements for the trans community.

Steps to take action:

1) Sign the petition demanding the HRA review committee adopt the procedures.

2) Collect HRA Postcards:

Make your own copies - Download the HRA Postcard, print it, sign it, get others to sign and mail the signed postcards to TransJustice, ALP, 85 South Oxford Street, Brooklyn, NY 11217. Download postcard here


Request postcards - Contact Mya Vazquez at 718-596-0342 x 23 or , tell us how many you want and where to mail them to.

3) Get involved with the campaign. To volunteer with the campaign or get more information contact

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Reeling Gay & Lesbian Film Festival: Chicago, Nov 5

Here comes the 28th edition of Reeling, the second-oldest lesbian and gay film festival in the world, and the premier cultural event for the city's LGBTQ community and film-appreciating audiences.

Presented by Showtime and Comcast, running November 5 - 15, Reeling will showcase over 150 innovative gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgender films from countries as diverse as the Philippines, Sweden, Mexico, and Puerto Rico. Reeling continues to demonstrate the expanding breadth of gay-themed work being produced today by showcasing films representing multi-cultural perspectives and in genres ranging from musical comedy to horror to serious drama to compelling documentaries to introspective experimental, and more.

Reeling will present 59 different screenings, including 33 narrative feature films, 10 programs of documentary features and featurettes, and 16 programs of shorts, as well as 7 after-parties and a panel discussion.  Festival screening venues include

Landmark's Century Centre Cinema

(2828 N. Clark St.),

Film Row Cinema

(Columbia College, 1104 S. Wabash Ave.),

Music Box Theatre

(3733 N. Southport Ave.), and the Festival's home base at

Chicago Filmmakers

(5243 N. Clark St.).

The Festival will host dozens of visiting filmmakers, producers, and actors who will be available for Q&A at screenings and will attend festival events.

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Evergreen Documentary Project receives French funding

By Ashok DEB

Sébastien Rist and Aude Leroux-Lévesque are two dedicated individuals  working on an educational documentary project on Bangladeshi Transexuals, namely the Hijra community ,who are worst affected by societal anti-pathy and Transphobia.  Sebastian and Aude have been staying in Dhaka for over an year now and runs three schools for the Hijra Communities.  In fact these two individuals could be perceived as the next generation Hijra experts on Bangladesh,who have gained considerable insight of this impoverished and highly margnalised community.

Recently they have released a demo version of their documentary where few glimpses of societal atrocities and rejection on  Bangladeshi Trans community were framed.  They have received assistance from a French production House for their project which was announced in this email below.

Hey people,

We’ve been waiting for the right moment to tell you, but we just recently signed a contract with a French production company.  This is great news because it means that we will be guided by a team of professionals who will be there to give us support and advice along the way.  We still have total creative control over the project and idea; the only difference is that the budget is slightly higher and the 52 minute Documentary has to be completed by the end of the year.

That said, after a few delays we can officially say that the shoot will begin Sunday.  We’ll try to post some production stills along the way. We’re really excited, Salma and Pinky are too!

Thanks to everyone  (Both in Canada and in Bangladesh) who have helped us get to where we are now,

Stayed tuned, there will be more to come,

Seb and Aude

You can read more about the film, see a preview and find out how to sponsor this film at this link.

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Laila Hijra Passes away

(via the bideshis)

We got the news that on Tuesday september 18th, Guru Laila Hijra passed away. 

Even though certain Hijra groups tend to clash, everybody could agree that they highly respected and admired Laila Hijra. Being one of the first Hijras in Bangladesh to speak out publicly  about their community’s  issues, Laila gained notoriety both on a nation and international level. She was one of the founding members and president until her death of ‘Shustha Jibon’; the first (and officially recognized by international ngos) Hijra community center of Bangladesh. 

Shustha Jibon is one of the places where we teach our English classes to Hijras. We met Laila Hijra when we tried to convince her and her team to let us come and help out. Quiet and reserved, Laila was very kind and open to our idea, giving us advice but also being very efficient and organized with her decision making.We thank her for accepting us into her community, and we thank her for  giving us the opportunity to meet such wonderful people. Without her, our project wouldn’t be where it’s at right now. 

I can’t imagine how the members of Shustha Jibon are feeling right now.

Are thoughts are with her friends and her family.

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