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When Domestic Violence Happens Outside of Closed Doors

This weekend, NFL linebacker, Shawne Merriman was arrested and accused of choking his reality TV star girlfriend Tila Tequila. Although the facts of this case have yet to be released, one of the biggest issues of my feminism has been displayed :  victim faulted for abuse. 

Since the alleged assault occurred, the internet went wild with accusations , videos and "witness accounts" essentially placing all  blame on the victim. "She is a whore", "what did Tila do to provoke him?", "she was giving him lap dances all night", "He probably just got tired of her loud mouth", "she's a lesbian, she's not really his girlfriend", "it's all a publicity stunt" and the quotes go on and on. This reminds me of the Chris Brown/Rhianna case, in which Rhianna was brutally beaten by her then boyfriend Chris Brown and then was soundly blamed for being a "jealous girlfriend", or a "ho", or some other word used to render the victim unworthy. It troubles me deeply to see this reaction - spectators should be denouncing these acts of violence, not pretending that the act is some how justifiable.

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