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Our Bodies are as Sacred as Life and Death

by Colette Coughlin - from Victoria's Sex Blog

I feel very much alive these days; but I have known periods of depression where I almost wished for death. Having been there, I now try to practice regularly those things that for me, nurture life; one of which is drawing the body, nude, whether it be enlaced in intimate lovemaking or simply being.

I was very close to one of my aunts who passed away two years ago, not too long after being diagnosed with ALS (Lou Gehrig’s disease), a progressive neurodegenerative disease that affects nerve cells in the brain and the spinal cord which eventually leads to death. I will never forget how courageously she shared her feelings when she received the devastating diagnosis; after the initial shock, she turned within to an incredibly deep source of strength and decided to live her death as fully as she had lived her life up until then. I was one of the very fortunate family members to be able to share this period with her up close.

She was a very “private person” and it is not without a twinge of discomfort towards other family members’ reactions that I post images of her. But at the same time, I do so with a deeper confidence, knowing that she not only asked to participate in my work through a nude photo session, she also gave me permission to share the artwork produced from them, and fortunately, I was able to show her a few of my drawings before she passed away. Drawing this one just recently brought me back to the beautiful moments spent together during the last months of her life.

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Sex and Relationships

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Body Image and Fear

by Judith Brisson

I have a new lover, whom I adore, yet who has trouble believing in my love because he feels he’s not good-looking enough. It saddens me that a body-image issue is getting in the way of our blossoming love. It underscores how important it is to have a positive bodily self-image and how difficulties in this area can impact on one’s personal life.

He shows his insecurity by making jokes about how I would be better off with another better-looking fellow, who doesn’t have such a long list of flaws as to be found in his physical appearance.  Maybe for some the physical aspects of their partner are of supreme importance: they might be able to overlook certain character flaws if the object/subject of their desire improves the décor enough.

But I have never been like that.

First of all, what attracts me most to a person, male or female, sexually or not, is the rapport that we share when we’re together. No rapport – no relationship. But particularly in a sexual relationship, the importance of good company is not to be underestimated.
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Why don't women like seeing men together?

I mean, I LOVE seeing guys together, but I have to admit that it wasn't always that way and I have a few thoughts on this but it seems there are 3 main reasons women don't

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Sometimes you just don't know till you get there

Well it was a night that didn't go to plan and I'm not going to go into detail but it highlighted something that I think other couples should be aware of.

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Gay Breakups: When the Rainbow Ends



“It just hit me out of the blue when Mike left me. We hadn’t really been together all that long, but I thought I’d finally found my true soul mate. Now it’s over and I feel totally rejected, like nobody’s ever going to want me again. It’s so hard finding a decent guy and now I have to start all over again; I don’t know if I can. I feel like a failure at relationships. I just don’t know what to do.” --Eric

“Steve and I broke up after eight years together. The house feels so empty without him and the pain can be so unbearable at times. The loneliness is the worst part for me and it’s like there’s this big hole inside of me, this nagging hurt that won’t go away. I think about him all the time and wonder if I’m ever going to get over him. I’ve never felt more alone and confused in my life.” --Josh

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