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Annabelle River's picture

When Sex Negativity Is Kinda Hot

I recently finished reading The Edge of the Bed: How Dirty Pictures Changed My Life by Lisa Palac, which I highly recommend, because I agree with almost everything she writes.  The part especially sticking with me has been Chapter 6, in which she analyzes her kinky desires that don't just deny, but appropriate her anti-sex Catholic upbringing:

At its core, my Daddy fantasy isn't about my father but about Our Father Who Art in Heaven.  I'd taken the dynamic of love and punishment, which terrorized me as a child and made me feel helpless -- kneeling down and sticking out my tongue to receive his body, whispering my most sinful transgressions in a dark confessional, doing penance to show my love -- and turned it into a powerful source of erotic pleasure.  It wasn't a conscious decision, but then, sexual fantasies rarely are.

...Despite my fear that all of my intellectual processing would ruin by best sexual fantasy, it didn't.  It's still a turn-on because I'm still struggling with the after-effects of Catholicism and I always will be.

Personally, unlike Palac, I was never raised with the idea of God as an old man who would send me to hell for sexual adventurousness.  Instead, the messages that my sexual desires were wrong came from pop-psychology and a specific strain of feminism.  Without God or hell, wanting men to dominate me sexually was a sin against Women's Liberation and a transgression against my Mental Health.  My sex-negative clergy got most of its ideas from Andrea Dworkin.  And I consciously rejected it years ago.

JoyGirl's picture

Age Play

Disclaimer: This topic can be a trigger subject for sensitive people.  Age play is a type of role play that happens between consenting adults and does NOT involve real children in any way, shape or form!


Age play-this is a touchy subject for a lot of people, especially if it involves sex, it elicits a very visceral reaction.  Usually people are either very interested or intrigued or they’re extremely turned-off and disgusted.  There is some middle ground, those for whom it is neither interesting nor a turn-off.


Annabelle River's picture

Reflections on puppy play

I originally went hunting for the BDSM community because I knew I wanted more impact play in my life.  But as soon as I starting meeting other kinky people, my world burst forth with possibilities of kinks I'd never heard of to consider.  One of the more intriguing of which was puppy play.

Most practitioners of puppy play feel it as an expression of power play: the submissive puppy and the dominant owner or trainer.  Puppy play also lends itself as an excuse to design and to wear some fabulously imaginative fetish gear, made by top-brand fetish outfitters such as Mr. S (pictured hood), JT's Stockroom (pictured mitts), and Northbound Leather (pictured tail).

But honestly, when I first heard of kinky people pretending to be puppies, my first reaction was a flashback to being a little girl and fighting with other girls who wanted to play "House" but didn't want to let me play the dog.  My grandfather was a veterinarian; my parents brought home my first dog when I was three; and strange dogs greet me enthusiastically as a friend in a way that strange humans don't.  When I was young enough to play make-believe without raising anyone's eyebrows, my closest friends and I spent plenty of time on our hands and knees barking at each other.  For me, it was a lot more fun than pretending that some doll was a baby.  And now, as an adult, my more vivid memories of play-pretend still delight me.

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