Today at work—i work at a coffee shop—someone asked me for a donut. However, she (i read her as a she, and will own that) didn’t simply as for “a donut.” She asked for “a plain donut.” This is where the challenge ensued.
Now, i knew exactly which donut she wanted. There wasn’t an ounce of doubt in my mind, and, for the record, i ended up being right. But i have a bone to pick with the concept of “plain/normal/regular.” Fortunately, in my line of work, there are literally hundreds of opportunities to pose challenges to this way of thinking.
So i drug the moment out. It could have been over in a flash of money and smiles; i could have sent her on her merry way quite easily. But i chose not to. i pretended not to know what she meant. “Which one?” i asked.
“The plain one,” she repeated herself as if the issue were one of decibel level instead of clarification.
“i don’t know what’s ‘plain’ to you, that’s very subjective,” i began playfully. “This one is covered in powdered sugar, is it ‘plain?’ What about the frosted ones, those look pretty ‘plain’ to me. Then, of course, you’d have to choose what’s more ‘plain,’ black or white?” i framed with a wry smile.
I love Lady Vixion. I really do. Here is a recent reflection on dysphoria, answering a question from her viewers.
142: How do you deal with gender dysphoria when it rears its ugly little head? Give examples of how you cope personally, in a relationship, and professionally. Topic chosen by Courtney, authored by Chris W.
MP: Transgendered (Fall issue) – Deadline August 31, 2011
Can there be a multi-gendered feminism? MP journal seeks submissions that explore the many facets of transgendered feminism. How do transgendered people experience, embrace, reject, or practice feminism? What is the role of feminism within queer studies? What is the role of feminism for those who occupy the interstice between male and female? Is gender performance feminist? MP Journal welcomes academic papers, book reviews, and other well-written inquiries on the subject of transgendered feminisms. International submissions are encouraged.
Submissions may be in any accepted academic format such as MLA, APA, Legal Bluebook, Chicago Style but must be consistent throughout and thoroughly and carefully edited. Please send the submission, a 50 word bio, and a CV before midnight August 31, 2011 to firstname.lastname@example.org
We are very excited to announce the start of our Name Change Mobilization project! During this monthly event, attorneys and trained volunteers will help transgender and gender non-conforming folks file petitions to change their names legally at the Daley Center in downtown Chicago. Volunteers will then provide follow-up support services to accompany folks to their court dates and help them navigate the subsequent name change processes at the Department of Motor Vehicles, Social Security Office, Department of Vital Records, etc. This event will happen once a month on the last Friday of every month from 9am - 4pm. Our goal is simple: we want to help as many people as possible legally change their names as part of our long-term goal of gender self-determination for all, free of government limitation.
Here are the details for our first mobilization!!!!
When: January 28th (this Friday) Time: 9am - 4pm Where: The Daley Center, 50 W. Washington, 12th floor
Do not fear! If you cannot attend this month's Mobilization, this is an ongoing project of TJLP and will reoccur on the last Friday of every month with the next two mobilizations already on February 25th and March 25th. We send many thanks those with the financial means to donate to TJLP and help make this event possible.
If you have any questions regarding the Name Change Mobilization or know of anyone that would like to participate by either getting their name legally changed or by volunteering to help folks change their names legally, please let us know! Our contact information for the event is email@example.com, 773-272-1822 (phone/text). Please see attached posters for our first mobilization in both Spanish and English.
Twelfth Annual International Transgender Day of Remembrance.
November 20, 2010
I really don't look forward to this day at all.
I dread the emotional impact of realizing the toll in human lives that sexism and misogyny take out as measured in human lives.
I don't want to think about people being killed because of their identity.
I cannot stand thinking about the lies, gloating, pride, vanity, bullying, cruelty and inhumanity behind each death blow.
I am angered by the willingess of juries and judges to allow murderers to go free because of "trans panic" or some other abominable story about why killing someone is acceptable because of the murderers ignorant, hate-filled judgments.
I feel helpless against the millions of deaf ears and thoughtless insults that it takes to bring about the change in law, religion, culture and family that is needed for human beings to be accepted as the gender they know themselves to be.
But, I am alive and I have the chance to help end all of this that I abhor and dread. So, I do not forget and I do not remain silent, because silence is murder.
So, I remember and I speak out and I ask that you do the same.