Crossdresser Body Issues

Jessica Who's picture

As a MTF crossdresser with no plans of transition, one could think that I am completely happy with my body and for the most part this is true. Where gender is concerned, I identify somewhere in between male and female but more toward the male side. 

When conditions are ideal, I prefer to dress five to six times per month and the rest of the time I am very happy dressing in male mode. Even so, there are issues that I struggle with as far as my body is concerned.

To repeat, I have no plans on taking hormones or undergoing any feminization surgeries. I am able to shop most women's clothing section without encountering too much trouble in finding the right size for me, my face is somewhat rounded and my shoulders aren't super wide. In short, I am free from most body issues regardless of which gender I am presenting as.

My problems lie in the size of my feet, a US men's size 13. Now, don't get me wrong, I know that they could be even bigger. However, this translates to anywhere from a 13 to 15 in women's shoe sizes, where selection drops off steeply. I've yet to encounter a women's shoe about size 12 in a bricks and mortar store.

Hands and feet are fixed and there's nothing that can be done about them, so logic would dictate that I just up and accept them as they are. Well, this is a constant struggle, but fortunately I am slowly getting there. Thanks to online shopping, I am able to find ladies' footwear that fits my feet, and little by little the styles are getting better.

To all you MTF transgendered folk out there with hands and feet issues -- I feel your pain. By simply discussing your feelings and finding a proper outlet, it is possible to get closer to total self-acceptance. Once this is achieved, you will be much happier.

Jessica De Leon is the author of Jessica Who?

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This is a great topic

arvan's picture

There are a lot of trans conversations going on across the 'net.  A great many of them seem (to my untrained eye) to be covering a lot of similar ground.  All of that is good and appropriate and I have no problem with it, whatsoever.

That said, I enjoy learning more about the day-to-day of people's lives.  In the more practical aspects of our lives, we also have common ground - from one person's perspective to another. 

We pay bills.  We buy food.  We go to work.  We live in families or apart from families.  The myriad aspects of gender and identity play themselves out all throughout our individual and shared existences.  I don't have a favorite topic or approach nor do I believe that a value scheme exists comparing one aspect of identity over another.  I just think we miss opportunities for multiple levels of relatedness when we focus on fewer examples of how we relate our shared lives together.

So, for me - this post is a good window into how I may consider my impressions of others, how I may listen when they choose the words of their own identity.  Most importantly to me, I see more ways in which we are alike, all of us as humans.


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