I want to Sweat, Scream & Cum until I pass out!
Men must think I have some special powers or something because it is unbelievable how many sex questions I get from straight guys wanting to know how to please their lady. In fact it makes me giggle how admirable man are for coming to a lesbian for advice on sex. So this article is in honor of all my straight boys who have inspired and drove me on the quest to attain the most incredible mind altering orgasm!
Because you sweet lads want to make your ladies cum so hard that they pass out I thought it only fair I give the same information out to my wonderful Lesbian women… because after all we are talking about the vagina and Lesbians do love bowing to her grace and beauty (and screams!)
So let’s face it, there are a million if not more articles, books, videos, pretty much any media full of information that give you info on how to have an orgasm… and yet there are still ladies not achieving them and that is just not fair, so here is the low down on the down under.
First of all cumming for women is not easy whether you are straight or gay. It takes a lot of energy and concentration, in fact if our mind is not in direct communication with our lady parts then usually the Big O will not happen. The world often makes it seem that it should just happen automatically and that everyone is capable of having an orgasm, but the reality is that a high proportion of women can’t climax at all.
Young women especially find it to be a difficult task to reach, but what research has recently found out is that for women an orgasm is learned! Yup girls, you have to teach your body to cum! I know it is a bummer but here is the good news, once you have taught your body how to make it bounce and fly then you can keep on doing it and get better at it (One thing the boys cannot do! Multiple orgasms!)
The learning starts with a self-tutorial that means self-love and masturbation. This is a very important step in self exploration as it really allows you to learn about pressure and rhythms. Knowing exactly how to excite yourself is empowering and feels amazing! Once you know it then it is time to teach your play mate (aka lover).
As you get older and reach your thirties and above you will reach orgasm quite easily (Yeah for me!!!) However, if you are still having difficulty reaching orgasm after your thirties and you are in a loving and caring relationship I would seek professional help and get a physical to make sure everything is alright. There are a lot of biological, medical, social and psychological issues that could be preventing your orgasm and may be helped but you must ask for help first. For example, certain medications can alter the sexual energy of a person, like anti-depressants.
Okay, so how do I become a multi-orgasmic Lesbian? Easy, you need to give your vagina daily workouts, and by that I mean Kegle exercises. You will recognize these muscles when you go to pee and are able to stop yourself. Having an awesome orgasm starts with contracting the pelvic muscle groups!
One of the most recommended and a used method is the Ben Wa balls. Ben Wa balls, also known as Burmese bells or Geisha balls are small, marble-sized balls, usually hollow and containing a small weight that rolls around and are used for sexual stimulation. Some may also be solid, or contain clappers or chimes within. Other larger versions made of plastic encasing lesser balls are called Duotone balls. More rare are the one contain a tiny vibrating metal tongue, giving a uniquely erotic sensation even at the slightest movement of hips or legs. They are used by inserting them into the vagina or anus and using muscles to hold them in, and movement to stimulate and vibrate.
Historian say that it’s origin is unknown but it’s primary use was a single ball placed in the vagina, used to enhance sex, but shortly evolved into multiple metal covered balls linked by either a chain or silk string for easy removal. Usage of Ben Wa balls creates a subtle stimulation, not meant to bring the user to immediate orgasm but rather to tease. It is possible to leave Ben Wa balls in one’s vagina all day, for sexual stimulation.
Ben Wa balls and other shaped vaginal weights are recommended by OB/GYN to increase vaginal elasticity and bladder control. Vaginal weights come in a cylindrical shape and are used in increasing weights to strengthen the vagina, which improves sexual performance. Mild urinary incontinence, such as that which occurs while coughing, laughing, or sneezing and occurs more often as women grow older, can be treated with Ben Wa balls, vaginal weights, or Kegel exercise.
Ben Wa Balls can also be used during intercourse to increase stimulation of both partners or in a combination with a vibrator. You can have your partner put on a strap on and have sex while you enjoy the stimulation of the Ben Wa Balls inside of you.
When using Ben Wa Balls always use the restroom before inserting them in. Very similar to a tampon you glide one ball at the time and you can even put some lube on there to make the insertion easier. Once comfortably inside you, start squeezing your leg muscles together and your pelvic muscles together to hold the balls in. Hold the balls inside for at least 15 minutes a day or for hours for an increased workout!
Ben Wa Balls and Sex on YouTube!
When done gently insert your finger inside your vagina and remove the balls one by one, if you have a hard time removing them just jump up and down, squeeze, cough, laugh, sit and bear down as if having a bowl movement, add more lube up there! Just remember not to panic…they cannot disappear! (I mean, where would they go?!)
There is a lot of available equipment to help with your workout regime: Climax Kegels Ben Wa Balls with Silicone Strap, Pure Romance Ben Wa Balls (Silver Balls), Blue Flower Glass Ben-Wa Balls, Original KEGELMASTER – Worlds First Progressive Resistance Vaginal Exerciser comes with Instructional DVD and Silk Storage Bag, Berman Juno Weighted Exerciser (glass is more sanitary and easier to clean!), Kegel Exercise Weights, GyneFlex with VTP (R) – Regular Strength, and Dr. Laura Berman Seen on Oprah, Juno Kegel Kit – Juno Intimate Basics Weighted Pelvic Exerciser Plus 50ml Bottle Lubexxx Body & Toy Lube 100% Condom Safe Silicone & Water Blend Lubricant and Berman Center Anti-bacterial Toy Cleaner!
Once you strengthen your muscle you should feel a difference in the way you experience an orgasm. You may then begin working on your external world. Start building your sexual side by:
1.Being creative in your foreplay, if it takes you longer to warm up get a head start by sending dirty text messages or leaving sexy voice mails.
2.Word it out; tell your partner she’s doing it right or it feels good. Let her know what you want!
3.Hit all the right spots, the most amazing lesson I learned was that my whole body can be used as a sexual orgasm for pleasure. For example, you can rub your clitoris right on her pelvic bone or her coccyx, even use her nipple. It is all about exploring and having fun!
4.Become a risk taker. Play out your fantasies and make new memories that you can play over and over again in your head and get you excited for the next encounter with your lover!
5.Slowing it down builds it up. When you feel yourself getting close to climax, back off and start all over again. This can be done a few times and will intensify the orgasm.
6.Focus on your breathing. Try to breath in tandem with your partner. This will bring you closer and create intimacy which will intensify your orgasm as well.
7.Lastly RELAX, stress compromises your libido and sex drive. So take it easy and take care of yourself… the reward will be mind blowing!
So now that you know the recipe it’s time to get sweaty, I want to hear the planet screaming with satisfied Gay women!
~The Lesbian Guru
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