Lesbian Lovers: The Art of Cunnilingus

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First of all, before we begin let’s get something straight about my favorite pass time. This article is going to be graphic and straight to the point, so if you have any problems with learning the vagina in the most intimate of ways… stop… reading… now.

Every gay woman knows, the vagina is a complicate instrument that is attached to our brains and unlike our male counterparts, who merely have to graze it against a tree and they get a hard on.  Well for us ladies it takes a little bit of warming up; it’s all about teasing, and taking it slowly. All vaginas differ in shape, taste, smell, and feeling.  Every woman needs to be learnt and understood as an individual; understanding that the same trick may not work on all women.

 

When doing cunnilingus, you don’t only use your mouth and tongue, but your ears to listen to her and your hands to feel her.  Stay in tune with your lover, don’t just focus on making her cum it should be fun and you should enjoy being there watching her while you play with her body and excite her. It’s not a race and you don’t get a price for how fast you make her climax, but rest assured you will get one for how hard.

You want to start by kissing her entire body and slowly moving south, maybe even gently breathing on top of her vagina to feel you hot breath but never touch her. Don’t go straight for her love button aka “clitoris,” it can be painful and without a proper welcoming party she might not be interested to play. 

It’s good to spend time around her thighs licking and kissing her sensitive skin, just gently brushing your lips (mouth) against hers (vagina).  You want to keep her surprised and be adventurous, touch her with your fingers never penetrating just rubbing softly then quickly. You should always keep your eye on how she’s reacting, and listening to every moan and word she says.

Then when you see the colors of her body change to darker reds and she is throbbing in excitement you can start playing with her clitoris. You can use your lips to suck on her clitoris, and your tongue to penetrate her and reach in and lick inside.  Always listening to what she likes and keep going.

Remember a climax is a buildup so you don’t want to go hot and cold on her; otherwise, she will lose and move back down to base camp (she will not be happy about this!) so keep going watching her and making sure your on target. Here is a clue, if she‘s telling you that she likes it then that means don’t stop!

Also, while you’re down there don’t forget there are other parts to her body that need attention. Now is a really good time for breast play or if you’re a little more in adventurous mood there is always anal (stick your pinky in her anus while you go down on her.) There also your fingers that can go inside her and then you can feel her contraction and how close she is to cuming. There is your nose that you can rub up against her vagina, what some might call “a down under Eskimo kiss.”

Whatever you decide to do it’s meant to be fun not a chore, so talk to each other before. Be honest about what you like and want. Remember, no one is a mind reader and it’s a lot more enjoyable when both of you are confident because you both have given each other permission to discover your bodies.

So here’s recap:

  1. Tease, tease, tease. Play with her body before you go for the direct stimulation.
  2. Lick, kiss and nibble her stomach, thighs, and outer labia.
  3. Use your entire face to play with her vagina, your nose, lips, teeth, chin, tongue and you can even use longer hair to tickle her gently.
  4. Circle around her clitoris and vagina using different pressures and speeds.
  5. Penetrate her vagina with your tongue.
  6. Breathe and blow warm air above her vagina but never directly inside especially if she is pregnant (a cause of air embolism).
  7. Flick you tongue quickly over her clitoris.
  8. Make your tongue big and flat and rub it all over her vagina.
  9. Nibble and bite, but only if she’s given you an okay otherwise you might get a smack on the head.
  10. Touch her while you go down on her, use breast play or penetrate her with your finger either vaginally or anally, matching the rhythm of your tongue.
  11.  Always listen to your partner. Watch her, and how she moves.
  12. Have fun and don’t forget the only way you know if you’re doing it right is to ask (but not a hundred time just enough that she is screaming yes!)

Oral sex for woman is closely link to body image and self-confidence so talk to each other, share your likes, desires and fears. Always use protection like dental dams and be cautious when your partner is menstruating.  Please read the article on “Lesbian Safe Sex” or watch the YouTube Video Lesbian Sex… Safer! 

For more information check out theses books:

The Whole Lesbian Sex Book by Felice Newman

Urge by Dr. Gabrielle Morrissey

The Straight Girl’s Guide to Sleeping with Chicks by Jen Sincero (surprisingly fascinating!)

Now my Darling, go be little vagina explorers and have fun… safe fun!

~The Lesbian Guru

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