Officer Dani Lee Harris is first intersex person to lead Pride parade
AS A GRAND MARSHAL of this year’s Atlanta Pride parade, Officer Dani Lee Harris, the LGBT liaison for the Atlanta Police Department, had hopes to wear her uniform proudly despite the controversy surrounding the APD’s recent raid of the Atlanta Eagle, a gay bar.
But when activists became angered again this week over her participation in Pride, and the concern she said her son had for her safety is she wore her uniform, she decided on Tuesday not to wear her uniform.
“My biggest concern is the safety of my son and out of respect for him I will swallow my pride,” she said. “I’m flabbergasted,” she said Tuesday. “Why people can’t realize this is about 21 officers out of 1,700 officers, and [the raid] is still under investigation. But I will come out of uniform.
"They got this one,” she said of those angered by her being a grand marshal.
Harris was not involved in the Sept. 10 raid and didn’t learn about it until contacted by the media the morning after it occurred. The outcry from LGBT citizens that followed forced Chief Richard Pennington and top brass of the APD to hold a police conference where Pennington acknowledged Harris should have been involved in the investigation of the gay bar from the beginning. But all that is over for right now, Harris said, and now is the time for the community to come together.
“How hypocritical can we be at times?” she said. “We get upset because of people stereotyping us and I feel the same when I’m in blue. For everyone to take all the good officers and clump them in with the bad, that’s discrimination. They’re looking at the uniform and not the individual.”
Harris, the first intersex grand marshal of an Atlanta Pride parade, said fellow LGBT people had asked her not to wear her uniform in the parade and she initially refused.
The Atlanta Pride Committee announced Harris and Rev. Chris Glaser as this year’s two grand marshals in a press statement released Sept. 22, not quite two weeks after the raid. The decision was met by outrage from some LGBT people, and allies, who felt it was inappropriate to honor an APD officer in the wake of the raid.
The backlash then forced the Atlanta Pride Committee to issue an open letter to the community, defending its selection of Harris. Harris was one of two nominees, explained J. Sheffield, events manager for Pride. The decision was made before the raid, and to take back the honor was simply not an option, he said.
“This is a tough one for us,” Sheffield told SoVo in September. “She did not do anything to warrant us taking the honor away from her. We selected her because of her contribution to the community and we need to honor that.”
The Pride Committee selected Atlanta Eagle co-owners Robert Kelley and Richard Ramey to be honorary grand marshals to try to appease the situation as well.
HARRIS GREW UP IN SPANISH HARLEM in an abusive household, shuffled between foster homes and nearly killed when shot in the face a decade ago. Her mother, who suffered from lupus and numerous other medical issues, spent much of her time in the hospital. She died at the age of 40 when Harris was 17, forcing Harris and her older sister to raise their younger siblings.
“We were literally dirt poor. I remember eating oatmeal cookies for dinner,” Harris said.
Harris overcame all of these hardships and built a career with the APD, but faced an internal struggle nobody knew about — one she never understood until last year. During puberty, she began growing facial and chest hair. She never had a regular menstrual cycle. Emotionally, she said, she had a rage that couldn’t be controlled.
Numerous medical later revealed Harris’ testosterone levels were much higher than the range for even the average male. At first, the doctor worried Harris may have brain tumors because her testosterone levels were so high.
Harris then began months of medical testing with an endocrinologist that eventually concluded with a chromosome test that revealed Harris had the XY chromosome — the male chromosome. But she also had female reproductive anatomy. The diagnosis was that she is intersex.
For Harris, who continues to identify as female but legally changed her name from Darlene to Dani Lee, a more gender-neutral name, finding out she is a male genetically felt like a heavy burden being lifted from her shoulders. Finally, she had an explanation for why she felt so different from everyone else, even sometimes within the queer community.
There are numerous variations to being intersex. Curtis Hinkle, who founded Organization Intersex International six years ago, said at last count he understood there were approximately 80 variations of being intersex, some extremely rare. Because there are so many variations, it is difficult to determine how common it is to be intersex. According to the Intersex Society of North America, however, if you ask physicians how often a child is born with notably different genitalia, the number comes out to about 1 in 2,000 births.
AT FIRST RELUCTANT to go public with being intersex, Harris said prayer and faith helped her realize that because she is unique, her life journey is important to share. She wants to make sure other intersex people know they are not alone.
“I didn’t choose to be who I am. I am who I am,” she said. “My creator has a funny sense of humor. We’re all so uniquely different and the core of me comes from my beliefs.”
After coming out publicly as intersex first in Southern Voice, Harris said the main response she continues to get when people learn she is intersex is, “What is that?”
“People learn that things are always so black and white,” she said, because gender is not always one or the other. And, she added, she’s had deep conversations with pastors, some who have struggled with the idea of homosexuality itself, who when they learn she is intersex — a biological condition — they consider that perhaps sexual orientation is also biological.
Harris has a partner, Joneé Ellis, who is her “biggest fan,” she said, and who will ride with Harris in the parade.
“It’s really a privilege and honor being the first intersex grand marshal,” Harris said. “I’m pleased and humbled and especially after the controversy I’m pleased how Pride backed me.”
Harris said she also knows she has more work to do in the community as the LGBT liaison and plans to “immerse” herself in the community after Pride is finished.
“I plan to go to all the LGBT businesses and bars and let them know what their rights are and bring an open discussion among everyone. We are a community and I want to be part of bringing it closer together.”