Save your Gay soul before you get RIGHTS!

Alex Karydi's picture

I'm writing in anger and frustration! I am saddened by the world I live in and the social ignorance I am surrounded by. People have asked me if I want my face on my article or want the fact that I am gay broadcasted, wondering if I worry about people finding out.

Are you serious?  You think I should hide because I am gay, because I love women? Because I want the same rights as everyone else and one day MARRY the woman of my dreams.  Do you want me silent and deaf to your cruel and uneducated remarks?  You have another thing coming!  Not only will I not stay quite, not only will I not hide, I will stand proud and strong and I will fight for everything I am and for my community!  I will fight for a life I want and deserve.

But more than anything I will fight for my child, so that she never has to hear in her lifetime someone tell her that her mother has a mental illness, is brain-damaged, or is choosing to be a homosexual and will go to hell (which unfortunately has been told to me on several occasions.)  I am going to fight so the women, human beings I connect with and love can share my life with me and without worries about not having the same Privileges and Rights as every other committed married couple.

It is 2010, and nothing has really changed.  We have been persecuted, insulted, killed, hurt, discriminated, lost, and forgotten.  Just look at what happened in Savannah in the last month, two marines beat a gay man unconscious because they "thought" he winked at them!

The next day one of the marines wrote on his facebook "annoyed", frustrated at the consequences!  You have to look at these guys mug shots, they are actually smiling!  What happened to them?  Absolutely nothing, a misdemeanor, as Georgia doesn't recognize hate crimes under state law!  What bullshit!

As a community we suffer from mental illness, alcohol and drug use, and domestic violence, not much different in rates surprisingly to our heterosexual counterparts. The only difference is we are fighting those wars alone! We have to deal with the hardship of life isolated from the support systems and rights others have. Because of who we want to have a relationship with we are put on the shelf, frightened and soon forgotten. I am going to make sure you remember me! Because I will not forget the idiotic discussions that take place in the media feeding biased opinions that justify personal and skewed belief systems. 

I will not forget being told that my gayness is contagious and I must not promote public displays of affection as I will infect others, especially the young innocent minds of children. I will not forget that at a Doctoral level of education I am still hearing "educated' individuals describe homosexuality as a brain abnormality, or that I am a sexual deviant, pedophile, and any other immoral undignified label you provide! I will not forget and I WILL fight back harder!

During 1940-1945, World War II happened and it was catastrophic, millions died because they didn't fit in the mold of what was considered right, because of their belief system. Rights and human dignity were taken away. They were not alone; Lesbians and Gay men were tortured and killed in concentration camps as well. They wore the emblem of the pink triangle and were not only suffering by the hands of the Nazis but also isolated within the camps for their sexual orientation. They died faster and were treated worse than other prisoners; it has been recorded by the American Jewish Committee.

The same committee conducted a survey in the 90's and found that only a quarter of Americans knew gays were victims of the Nazi Oppression! To this day homosexuals have not received any compensation or acknowledgment of what those individuals went through. Still to this day we show disrespect with official, scholarly, and social disregard of what happened in history (Please read The Men With The Pink Triangle by Heinz Heger, and remember those forgotten), again hiding and staying quite, with only a few rising up from the ashes to stand strong and proud.

Scientists have discovered over the decades that there are over 400 species on this planet with homosexual tendencies and partnerships, am I still abnormal? Am I still dysfunctional? Or, maybe it is all part of a greater creation, one beyond the capability of our fragile brains to understand and see. Maybe the lesson isn't to judge, criticize and hate but find respect, acceptance, and genuine curiosity for what is different and how it can enhance the beauty of this world. The video I have chosen which I found after I wrote this article was filmed August 8, 2008 of a Harvard Student giving a speech for his year. I watched it, and in thinking about his words it brought me to tears knowing that this was two years ago and not much has changed. Gay Rights by Havard Student on YouTube.

Columbia, South Carolina you have just inherited a Proud and oh so Gay South African Woman.  I am going to work my hardest to educate and help my community to unite and become a healthier group of women (I don't care what label you have, if any be it lesbian, transgender, bisexual, queer, or green with blue polka dots), I will fight for you and I will not forget our worth! I am going to work twice as hard for my LGBT family to be accepted and have the same rights as everyone else. Hopefully within my lifetime I as well as you will know FREEDOM and EQUALITY! 


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