Transgender and Statism
Transgender (pronounced /trænz?d??nd?r/, from (Latin) derivatives [trans <L, combination form meaning across, beyond, through] and [gender <ME <MF gendre, genre <L gener- meaning kind or sort]) is a general term applied to a variety of individuals, behaviors, and groups involving tendencies that diverge from the normative gender role (woman or man) commonly, but not always, assigned at birth, as well as the role traditionally held by society. – Wikipedia
I have considered myself bi-gendered, leaning towards male, since I was three or four years old, when I encouraged the other kids in preschool and kindergarten to think of me as a boy.
I always felt extremely awkward in girls clothes, and in younger photos of me where I was made to wear a dress or skirt, my discomfort is clearly written on my face.
A more feminine aspect to my personality started emerging in my late teens [Represented by the character Emilie] but I have begun to question whether this is a genuine part of me, or just me re-inflicting the “femaleness” my parents tried to shove on me when I didn’t want it. For a short time I began to wear more revealing girl’s clothes such as mini skirts, but I think this was more about sexual attention than actually feeling or wanting to be female.
When my parents got the internet, it wasn’t long at all before I found a wealth of resources and communities dealing with gender-questioning topics, and I soaked up all the information I found like a sponge. I had known about MTF’s [male to female trans] but I was surprised at the sheer number of FTM’s [female to male] there were as well. It helped me to feel more comfortable about myself, so I started floating the topic of transgenderism with my friends who were mostly gay guys/lesbians.
Oooh. Noooo. The gay community is incredibly transphobic, for what reason, i do not know. Floating a trans trial-balloon with one of my [lesbian] partners garnered such responses as ‘unnatural’ and ‘mental illness’. So I started to reject my own thoughts and feelings, thinking that I would have to if I ever wanted successful friendships or relationships.
Then while browsing around through youtube I somehow found the channel of the wife of a transman [I don't think I was even looking for transgender videos] Mytransman. The channel exists to document her own mental transition while her husband physically transitions to male. I was so surprised that she not only stayed with him when he came out 8 years into their relationship [they previously identified as a lesbian couple], but went above and beyond and opened a store to sell transman products.That’s LOVE, I thought. It gave me the courage to start exploring my identity again and to start talking about it with my friends.
That’s my story. Now let’s talk about the rest of the community. What I really want to accomplish by talking about this is not just my own personal self-edification but that of others as well. Not only is the gay community surprisingly transphobic as I mentioned before, but things are even worse for us outside of it. It is estimated that every 3 days a transperson is murdered because of their identity, and these will go largely unprosecuted by police. Many refuse to seek medical care or are REFUSED medical care because of discrimination. Discrimination in the work place means that may are forced to prostitute themselves to earn a living.
How can we stop this? Well for years activist groups have beaten their heads against the brick wall that is the State in order to end this discrimination and enact “hate crime” laws that are ~supposed~ to grant transpeople protection. Enough progress is made to keep people clinging to this idea, but not enough to actually do anything of serious worth. Also, as we were all taught in our childhoods, violence does not solve violence.
If we really want to get anywhere, we have to give this idea up and find alternatives. If you think there are no alternatives to the State, create your own. The internet has already succeeded in bringing together people who may never have met otherwise and in making the community far more visible. Talk about it, write about it, draw about it, sing about it, dance about it. DO SOMETHING, don’t wait another four years and another four years and ANOTHER four years for someone who MIGHT do something.
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