After further emails from my friend, I believe I may have sourced the problems:
My friend identifies as androgynous/transgender, and does not understand the difference between this and me identifying as male flat out.
My friend has pride in who zie is, and may be mistaking my newly forming sense of self, struggles with my body, and other life issues with me acting as a survivor rather than someone who is proud of themselves.
My friend is 'disappointed by but accepting of' hir body' and thinks I should feel the same...
My friend has literally stated that it is a "tragedy" when people take hormones and get surgery because zie believes that person must be doing it for society (an extension of the above, I believe). Zie does not understand that I am disgusted and nauseated by my body and that this is the real reason I'm doing it.
This may be my fault. I may have misexplained myself. All I'm sure of is that I am grateful that we are both affirming our friendship while undergoing this difficult process. I am grateful that zie has apologised for coming off too hard and is making it clear that hir desire is to understand.
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