sex

Oh. My. God.  I have got to get a whiff of this.  Some company in Germany has designed a perfume that smells like pussy.  Apparently, they spent a lot of time on figuring it out and it smells like just the right mix of urine, sweat and vaginal secretions. 

I don't know how they make it, but I am having flashes of collection tubes inserted into comatose women without their permission and kickbacks to hospitals & nursing homes.  

I'm curious about the target market.  Is this for real women trying to attract men or is it for men that want take their fleshlight masturbating experience to the next level?

On top of that, they created this ad which combines all sorts of images and fetishes. 

I found this on STRASS and think it bears repeating.

-arvan

Whore Feminism is :

1. Dictate terms to men in the sexual contract before talking, either about the length, practices, prevention and rules of consent.

2. To work with other women and queer people and thus reduce the risk of suffering sexist and homophobic jokes from colleagues.

3. Being economically independent of a father, a boss or a darling.

4. Occupy public and night spaces traditionally reserved for men.

5. Combat whore stigma that hinders freedoms of all women, by reclaiming the insult in pride in order to break the original meaning.

6. Knowing, loving, being comfortable with our body and our sexuality and take care of it.

7. Defending the free disposal of our body and not only for abortion rights.

8. Knowing that sexuality and gender are defined by power relationships and that identities are neither natural nor immutable but socially constructed and as such we perform them like actresses.

9. Educating men and to change their behaviour because we have access to their privacy.

10. The right to say yes as much as to say no. Fighting for the recognition of rape as a crime, including those committed against us and which our complaints are rarely recorded.

11. Awareness of the intersection between different forms of discrimination and being in solidarity with other minority women.

12. Respecting all women voices. Refusing paternalism that infantilises women and judge them unable to express their own will under the false pretext that we are manipulated, yesterday by the priests to deny us the right to vote, or now by pimps to ban soliciting.

13. Making visible as work all services rendered for free or extracted within the family and demanding financial compensation for this, unless to refuse them.

14. Fighting for the unionization of sex workers and change the sex industry, including being aware that gendered asymmetry between men as clients and women&queers as whores is the result of a long tradition of patriarchal sexual division of labour .

15. Refusing to be a victim.

I found this one through someone that RT'd one of our tweets today.  This whole idea seems rooted in the context of the world of cons, but I think the idea is brilliant and well suited for all gatherings of people. 

They have the list below in a couple versions of flyer, that you can download here.  I condensed the two, to include the most complete variations in one big list.  I hope you love it and pass it along.  I sure as hell think it's nifty as all get out. 

Oh, and be sure to give the project their props - they should be rewarded for being this damn awesome.  Look over the rest of their site for allied sites / orgs and you can even purchase "Back Up" gear on CafePress at no mark up.

-arvan

The Open Source Women Back Each Other Up Project - real world help for a real world problem

The Project aims to make help against harassment visible and available, to create safer environments, to help women to support other women and men to challenge other men. We want sff, anime, comic, and other cons to be safer spaces for women.

I will break through your Somebody Else's Problem invisibility field and come over and ask if you're okay.

I will help you contact help: your friends, the event organizers, or police/security officers, if that is what you would like.

I will help you to the best of my ability if you're being harassed or made to feel uncomfortable.  Just let me know, even if you don't know me.

I will not tell you that you must have been imagining things.

I will not say to you to go home, or go hide in your room, or just stay away from that guy.
 
I will not make you feel like your right to control over your own body is not a big deal.

I will do this whether or not I like you, or even know you. It's not about liking you. It's about the fact that we need to back each other up, and I will need you to do this for me some day.

I will remember that you are in charge, and if you don't want my help, I will go away.  I will be there to help you in the future if you need it.

http://www.backupproject.org

By Lina Attalah

 I’m not a sportfucker where I must bed more than one partner at once.  Nor is it calculated.  Never works that way. You know it when your body knows it.  My pussy begins to pucker.  And then I get sharp orgasmic pains, which forces me to rub myself.  It’s even worse now because I’m menstruating.  I don’t mind masturbating on my period… but sex?  Let me put it to you this way.  Playing with my pussy is like a crime scene – it’s filthy and obscene, but manageable.  Not too messy.  Having sex is more like a bloodbath – No matter what you do you’re both covered in blood.  And it takes forever to clean up.

So, along comes a fellow in my neighborhood.  I liked that he had a very average appearance.  But his energy was very unique.  And he looked so young…  Mmmm, I was curious…

By Bob Johnson [XBIZ]

SAN FRANCISCO — Indie feminist pornographer Courtney Trouble announced that she will be managing adult talent through LittlePinkBook.biz.

The agency is poised to fill the need for ethical, professional casting assistance for unique, authentic performers - including but not limited to alternative, BDSM, fetish, queer, lesbian, and trans performers, according to the company.

“I have been told consistently that one of my greatest traits as a pornographer is my ability to cast the right person for the right project. Cultivating healthy working relationships with my performers has always been my biggest goal in this industry, and moving forward to promote these artists seems like the next logical step,” Trouble said.

Initial clients include 2009’s Feminist Porn Awards "Heartthrob of the Year," Dylan Ryan and fetish model Sarah Lee Sinful. Both are performers in Trouble’s Reel Queer Productions/Good Releasing films, and her own company NoFauxxx.com.

The company will also provide casting assistance to both mainstream and indie production companies through a database of over 100 established and aspiring performers.

“There has been a lot of great work done in female-friendly filmmaking in the past year, but no work done to connect the indie, “feminist,” and “queer” genres to the mainstream. I hope to achieve a working relationship between the indie and the mainstream by being a resource for casting and ethical business practices. It’s time to take this groundbreaking work behind the scenes into performer relations!,” Trouble said.

For more information contact courtney@littlepinkbook.biz.

THE INTERNATIONAL GIRL GANG UNDERGROUND compilation zine aims to document and dissect how Riot Grrrl's legacy has manifested twenty years later, as well as provide guidance for those who want to transform "revolution girl style now!" into "REVOLUTION GIRL STYLE FOREVER!"

If Riot Grrrl doesn't resonate with you or your cause, that's okay! We also want to know about all the do-it-yourself, grassroots music movements currently being run by women/girls/trans/genderqueer/queer folks today.

We want your submissions!  Talking points include, but are not limited to:

• ESSAYS ON...
  • What would a modern-day "Riot Grrrl manifesta" look like?
  • The successes and failures of Riot Grrrl and what we've learned from them
  • Your experience as an immigrant grrrl, genderf**king boy, revolutionary pornographer, Muslimah punk, working class queer, etc
• REPORTS ON...
  • What was your experience as a Riot Grrrl in the '90s?
  • What's going on in your community that supports feminist & queer DIY musicians today?
  • Scene reports from regional DIY music scenes that traditionally are lady- and queer-friendly (London, Berlin, NYC, or your town)
  • Individuals who are making a difference--musicians, activists, writers, whomever!
  • "Where are they now?" (Riot Grrrl edition)
• HOW-TO...
  • "Get off the Internet and meet in the street"
  • Reclaim feminism for the 4th wave
  • Organize conferences, protests, benefits, etc
  • Combat the "dude-first" mentality of your music scene
  • Use new technologies to organize effectively
  • Start a band/go on tour/create a zine/etc
  • Create spaces for working class, POC, international and rural women and queers
• BAND/ZINE/COLLECTIVE/ACTIVIST GROUP INFO...
  • We're creating a directory for the International Girl Gang Underground--send along info on your project to be included!
• ART...
  • Print, digital, audio, video, whatever--so long as it's in an easily rendered format for a black & white zine or can be included on an accompanying CD-R for distribution, we want it!

I recently finished reading The Edge of the Bed: How Dirty Pictures Changed My Life by Lisa Palac, which I highly recommend, because I agree with almost everything she writes.  The part especially sticking with me has been Chapter 6, in which she analyzes her kinky desires that don't just deny, but appropriate her anti-sex Catholic upbringing:

At its core, my Daddy fantasy isn't about my father but about Our Father Who Art in Heaven.  I'd taken the dynamic of love and punishment, which terrorized me as a child and made me feel helpless -- kneeling down and sticking out my tongue to receive his body, whispering my most sinful transgressions in a dark confessional, doing penance to show my love -- and turned it into a powerful source of erotic pleasure.  It wasn't a conscious decision, but then, sexual fantasies rarely are.

...Despite my fear that all of my intellectual processing would ruin by best sexual fantasy, it didn't.  It's still a turn-on because I'm still struggling with the after-effects of Catholicism and I always will be.

Personally, unlike Palac, I was never raised with the idea of God as an old man who would send me to hell for sexual adventurousness.  Instead, the messages that my sexual desires were wrong came from pop-psychology and a specific strain of feminism.  Without God or hell, wanting men to dominate me sexually was a sin against Women's Liberation and a transgression against my Mental Health.  My sex-negative clergy got most of its ideas from Andrea Dworkin.  And I consciously rejected it years ago.